How can I learn to control my emotions when I don't even know what they are?

It's difficult sometimes to learn how to control something you don't know very clearly about. And like many other forces on Earth, you can only master it when you know how it works, its patterns. So I suggest the first step in learning to managing your emotions is to define them. Different ways work with different people but one of the most effective and common ways is to keep a journal. You can write about your emotions, how certain people/behaviors/situation make you feel, answering questions like Should I be feeling like this? Are my emotions too shaky/more on the negative side? Soon enough, you will be able to see a pattern - how you would feel around certain things or people. situation. From then, you can sit down and reflect on each of them, figuring out how to control your emotions the next time you encounter similar scenarios,

I start by writing everything I feel and think. I use a pen that I enjoy the feel of and I write and write until things start to make sense. It is a release, for me. As I write, my thoughts start to organize themselves and I find myself more in control of myself.

First of all, you have to stop overthinkng about what your emotions may be.....then get some deep breathes and calmly think what possibilities of your emotions maybe....when you come at this point you'll get a strong feeling on what emotion it could be or sometimes it happens that you know what you feel but you can't accept it so try to embrace whatever you feel your emotion is and then think of how you can avoid it

To control our emotions we first have to figure out and know what they are. Life can through fast balls and curve balls and take us on an emotional roller coaster. Once we define what we’re feeling the next step is to accept it in all its glory; both the good and the bad. Know that what you want to learn to control isn’t the emotion, but rather your reaction to. Our reaction to situations can either work towards making the situation better or fueling the fire of a downward spiral. For example, if I’m feeling stress over money. Complaining and worry isn’t going to do anything for my emotional welfare. It’s time to throw all of my possible solutions on the table and begin to piece the puzzle together. Learning to control our reactions will keep those emotions in check.

I too agree that emotions are weird things that are hard to control. To me, it is very difficult to control your emotions, but it is really easy for your emotions to control you. The number of times that wonder to myself why I did what I did further proves this. Not knowing what you are feeling makes it difficult to control your emotions, but not impossible. Sometimes, I feel like doing nothing and either ignore the feelings or wait for them to pass. Other times I try to control my emotions by looking at the cause and affect. I concentrate on what I am feeling and think, is a good emotion or a bad emotion? Do I want to feel this emotion again? I then try to identify the cause of the emotion. If it is a positive emotion, I either do nothing or try to repeat the cause/trigger of the emotion. If it is a negative emotion I try to prevent the cause/trigger from happening again.

What has been happening that makes you feel you need to control them? When you look at each and every situation that has brought you to this point, what is the common denominator? Find out what that is and try to resolve it from there. If there isn't one single one, that is okay! In my experience, when I needed to inspect myself, there were a lot of different emotions that I needed to look at and try my best to control. It may take you a while, but that's okay! It took a while for me, but I took as much time as I needed for each "chaotic" kind of emotion, and was able to help each. I can't say they're all gone, but I'm working towards each and every single one!

I personally think emotions are not necessarily there to be controlled, but they are there to be witnessed and listened to. It's like emotions are your body's way of trying to let you know what feels good, what doesn't, or if something hurts or if something doesn't seem quite right. The emotions you feel are all valid, although this doesn't necessarily mean that the behaviors resulting from these emotions are all valid too. We still do need to be held accountable for the actions that we take when we're feeling a certain emotion. However, emotions alone, I think, are great indicators of what's happening inside of us. And it would be doing such a great kindness to ourselves if we have the openness to hold space for them, in a gentle and non-judgmental manner.