How can I learn to control my emotions when I don't even know what they are?

Okay, not knowing emotions is one of the meanings of depression so, the best way to control and manage your emotions is to understand yourself by searching deep in yourself and what's the stuff that makes you feel your emotions , you have to understand that everything is based in thoughts, accurately believing them, if you believe something this is gonna hurt you :| and will have effects on you . for example if someone calls you and tells you your house is burning you gonna turn sad and angry but if he tels you that he was just joking you gonna relax , that's only because you believed that your house was burning ... that's why you have to manage your ideas and thoughts and don't let them be like real for you, if you believe that you can succeed you gonna succeed!

By learning self hypnosis and mediation,a person can succeed to control emotions or atleast to tackle them better.

I understand what you mean. This is extremely difficult to handle, but you should try to breathe. Give yourself some time to just relax- try dedicating a half hour to relaxing and breathing deeply alone. You need to get over these emotions you are feeling, which may be very difficult.

That's a really tough question am in the process of trying to find the answer to this question myself at the moment am just trying my best to work my way through that particular emotion at that moment although this is a hard thing to do

It can help just to relax for one second, just stop and breathe. I then like to write down how I'm feeling at that moment and can establish what emotions I'm feeling and can then control them from there.

It may sound a little cheesy but try meditation - just sit by yourself in a quiet room and focus on emptying your mind of everything. Close your eyes and just sit there for a while. It's even better if you can work it into your routine as a regular thing. Writing your feelings down can also really help you to get your thoughts in order which is really helpful for self-reflection.

Personally i think you're better off accepting your emotions rather than fighting them. After all, emotions are what makes you, you. Trying to understand what you're going through and what you're feeling can be very difficult. If you find that your emotions reappear after a specific event, try avoiding that event or anything that may trigger you to remember it. Stay positive.

Its difficult to allow ourselves to feel our own emotions fully, and even if we do, in the moment that feeling is all there is - it's difficult to compare to anything else. This seems even more so when we are in a distressed mood, it absorbs us and it's hard to imagine anything else. For me it works to focus on my heart. For some reason that place can sum up a lot of my feelings. Try to find one word to describe in what state your heart is. Broken? Scared? etc. Then you can go from there to find what sort of help you might need.

Take a deep breath and realize you have all the time in the world to learn how to control your emotions. Take it one day, one hour, one minute at a time. Maybe find a hobbie, I like to work out when I'm feeling anxious and confused about my feelings, it really helps!

Accept the feeling even if you cannot label them and be nice to yourself. Trying to push against them will only make them persist.