I feel like isolating myself, but deep inside I am very lonely. What do I do?

I am afraid that in this stressful world it is quite usual to feel lonely; I don´t say it´s all right, I just think more and more people deal with their loneliness. Maybe we are living too fast and too self-centered lives and forget to care about others. That´s such a pity! The good news is we can deal with the loneliness together. :) For me it was very helpful to concentrate on somebody or something very meaningful – e.g. a soul-mate, an inspirational colleague or a regular hobby – a well selected hobby may turn into passion and fill our lives on a long-term basis. We can become passionate readers (to be honest, I have never felt alone with a book in my hand), lifelong students, emphatic teachers, sensitive poets, wonderful artists… Can you imagine that the power of poetry or of a painting might be so incredible that it can force some people to cry? I was crying standing before Renoir´s paintings surrounded by other visitors and didn´t feel ashamed at all. You can do it by creating art, too – I mean influence someone’s inner world so deep, that he or she will remember that strong feeling during the whole lifetime. To build a strong and close friendship or find a wonderful colleague may take time. Yes, it can take a lot of time, but if it comes, it’s wonderful to know there is a warm-hearted and valuable being you can rely on. And you are there for him or her, too! :) By the way, when talking about friends, can you imagine adopting a very special friend who would really need your full attention? Dogs or cats can be our listeners, they can be our friends, our healers. We also may try our best to avoid negative thoughts about ourselves being lonely – it really might be only our subjective feeling. Instead of that we can try to concentrate on something which would make us and others happy. And yes, I am sure it would be quite appreciated to be patient with ourselves. Strange, but I remember the times when I felt totally lonely in the office. These were those times when I lost patience with myself while learning hard things and thought there was nobody to encourage me. Everything takes time, life is not a competition. So, dear ourselves… Please bear with us – we are doing our best. :)

Find yourself and u will never feel lonely.. Isolating has cons but it has pros too... Introspection and know what makes u happy will make u a better person. You should get involved in activities you haven’t tried like swimming, hiking etc. Read or do things you are passionate about Meditate Make a loan for everyday Write a journal Join the weirdest class/club u know Visit an old age home or orphanage to understand life again Adopt an animal Have a date with your parents Talk to yourself (most important) Make new memories Cry if u feel sad Laugh If u are happy Know you are loved (tho it’s difficult) ..but it’s worth trying

It is normal for all of us to feel lonely from time to time. May be it is time to ask what you need and want the most at this very moment. Do you have any void in your life? What do you see when you look yourself in the mirror? Are you happy with being who you are? Do you have family and friends? Are you comfortable being with a close group of friends ? Or are you comfortable being with a large group of friends? What do you do when you’re alone? Ask yourself what you want the most right now.

I have been here many times myself. Sometimes, I find that the best thing for me to do in this situation is to go outside. I don't need to talk to anyone, or do anything in particular. When I lived in a city, I would just walk to a park, and listen to people talk and laugh. I know the desire to isolate oneself can be really strong. I also have some social anxiety/introverted tendencies, so sometimes I get even more tired and lonely and frustrated when I talk to people, but just going for a walk outside will help reset my mood. Everyone is different, though, so try to find something that works for you!

When you feel like isolating yourself you probably aren't enjoying your surroundings. is it true? In such a case it feels weird and confusing and i completely understand it . But ask yourself what is the one thing you enjoy doing ? what makes you happy ? And keep doing it. you will find it soothing once you do what you like doing . And loneliness doesn't always require people to be healed. You can feel less lonely and happy with yourself. So if you do feel like being alone its fine . Do what you want to and enjoy it. Focus on yourself and you will no longer be lonely

We feel like that sometimes because we want to know if someone cares. If someone will respond to our desperate calls for help one thing you should know is that before you expect someone to help you you should help yourself. You should be comfortable in your own skin. Then we would not be scared that no one will catch us if we fall. Your thoughts start to change and that positive outlook will attract positive people in you life. Just trust yourself that is all that matters. Learn to accept and love yourself for who you were, who you are and finally who you hope to become one day

Reach out to others around you! Often times, our feelings of wanting to be alone can stem from a misconception that since nobody wants to talk to me, I am better off alone. Trust me, we all feel the same away. Making the first move by saying "Hi" to a classmate or making plans with old friends can make you happier and more willing to continue forming relations. Never convince yourself that you don't need anybody else (everybody needs somebody else). Even though that first hurdle of greeting somebody can seem high, doing it can not only help you overcome your feelings of loneliness, but it can also make someone else's day!

I have an idea! Based on my personal experience, I would get this feeling many times as well. I suggest telling your friends and family you are taking time to meditate. Then, actually listen to calming soothing sounds for as long as you like. There are also many guided meditations available online. Meditation can help in so many ways. It gives you time to yourself, clarity, time to focus on breathing, and overall finding inner peace. I highly recommend practicing this. Another suggestion is to have a day or two to yourself watching movies, focusing on yourself and whatever you want to do. Either one should help you fulfil that desire to be to yourself and then coming back to speaking with others with more clarity and feeling good about yourself.

We may feel like isolating when you feel vulnerable, cumbersome or ashamed, or tired. Finding someone who you can feel safe with, just to spend some quiet time together, or for the person just to listen, nod, and reassure you, can be comforting, an equilibrium between connection, in the form of listening, and isolation (in the form of not having to hear anything if you don't want to). Often loneliness doesn't come from being alone, but from our thoughts. Thoughts of being different, of not being wanted, if abandonment, of not belonging, of being a fraud, or otherwise unappetizing or undesirable.

I can really hear that you have this need to withdraw from forming and connections with other people but internally you feel you need people to connect with. You might want to ask yourself what loneliness means for you. Is it about lacking relationships or having none or is it about people not holding you in as high regard as you hold them? Ask yourself if you are feeling left out in anyway in your friendships, family relations or work relations. Another interesting question to ask yourself can be what is triggering yourself to what to isolate? People can be disinclined to interact with others because they have been bullied in the past or it may have something to do with upbringing. What people who have this sense of loneliness tend to turn to working on becoming content with oneself. Getting to know yourself through developing hobbies and interests can give you the satisfaction. Through this you can make discoveries about yourself, what you like and what you dislike. Your thoughts and feelings can be expressed through other reflective ways such as journal writing or writing in a diary. Mindfulness is another medium teaching breathing techniques as well as inner acceptance of the essence of you. Ask yourself your thoughts about self-care and the people you associate with and what they mean for your own mental health. Thing of those things or people you appreciate and are grateful for in your life. Recognition of what makes you tick and what satisfies you can be unraveled in ways in which you do not know. This feeling of loneliness can come in different shapes and forms and there are different ways to overcome this. Your welcome to reach out to one of our listeners for further support or one of our therapists, some of which who have identified with feeling lonely. Thank you so much for reaching out and I hope you get the support you need.