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I feel like isolating myself, but deep inside I am very lonely. What do I do?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 29, 2018
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I think reflect on why you want to isolate yourself. Finding the why first can help you decide how you feel about the why. Some possible reasons include: 1) if you isolate yourself willingly, then it makes you feel like you have control and therefore give you a comfort in that you feel like you can also choose to not isolate yourself if you wanted to. 2) you are afraid of embarrassing yourself by attempting to be social and you’d rather play it safe by sticking alone. 3) You’ve had bad experiences in the past that sort of keep you from associating with people. There are more possible reasons, but these are just a few to get you started. I’ve had a similar situation, I know the confusion of loneliness. I hope you find clarity in your situation, or just find yourself in a better place in general soon!
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Profile: Nasrz8
Nasrz8 on Oct 11, 2018
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What it seems obvious that you need to have something new in your life, something that changes the daily routine you're living every single day. To do that; you need to do something new that will make you feel like new and not lonely. Like for example you can : 1) Participate into a new activity. specially the one that involves people or a group work like painting, cooking, music....etc. 2) Workout and start hitting the gym or aerobics classes. 3) Volunteer for a charity work near you. Not only you'll help others, but also you'll have the opportunity to meet new people and to feel good about yourself.
Profile: radiantHoliday71
radiantHoliday71 on Jan 19, 2019
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We are lonely sometimes and it is normal. No one I believe never feel lonely. If you feel lonely once in a while, not every day, let me say it is okay because we're born also to have social interaction. On the other hand. For you whom realize isolating yourself: first, find out the reason why you chose to isolate from anyone outside. If that is a problem you must solve, focus on what outcome you want to be. Have vision about situation that is no longer a problem for you. important note: thank god you aware of that. Have a good day!
Profile: TheLinenMonk
TheLinenMonk on Feb 8, 2019
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What are you afraid will happen if you were around other people? What are you more afraid of: That ^ or continuing to be alone? If being alone is what you really wanted you wouldn't be questioning it. So the question is what are you trying to isolate yourself from? How would things have to be for you to WANT to be around others? What would it be like if being around others was easy? Social isolation is a dangerous thing to mess with. While it is perfectly fine to prefer your own company and be introverted, but giving up a social life completely is not advisable because it will make you crazy and can be a real challenge to get out of. Speaking from experience. It seems to me there is something deeper that is motivating you to run away from others. What is it? and what needs to happen for you to overcome it?
Profile: BlakeRime
BlakeRime on May 18, 2019
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If you feel like isolating yourself you must do it. And if you are lonely you must try to embrace yourself more and try to enjoy your company. I know isolation is needed at times, so take your time to get yourself together. Its ok to not socialize for a brief time. Every one had their private bubble. When you had enough time to sort things out you can find yourself in a group to break the lonely crystal. You know that's the magic. You can do whatever you want, only potion needed is to give some efforts and follow your heart. And the main key is LOVE YOURSELF. :) I HOPE YOU SORT THINGS AND FIND HAPPINESS
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I understand how you feel, I've felt something close to that. You want to isolate and distance yourself but you are truly quite lonely. It seems you're scared. I believe you should trust in yourself and spend some time with yourself. I'm not here to give advice, unfortunately, but I believe this is something you will conquer! Loneliness is one of the worst feelings in the world and it can be very suffocating. You are a great and beautiful person and someone hasn't seen that yet! Sometimes being brave is very helpful, who knows where it will lead you?
Profile: gentleWatermelon9077
gentleWatermelon9077 on Jun 23, 2019
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It’s ok, take a few days for yourself but make sure it doesn’t become a habit go take to your neighbors classmates even to you parents about how your day was this will help brighten your mood.If you can’t pull your self off o do it push your self into the sun where u can be reborn it will help make new friends or talk to old ones make a bucket list and keep your self busy if not u will end up lost in your thoughts which will not lead to a good thing ok take great care :)
Profile: PeacefulSeraphim
PeacefulSeraphim on Aug 7, 2019
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You may start with small steps such as reaching out to others on reputable sites such as 7cups. Share your feelings with listeners and maybe move to small groups and build a support base once you are comfortable. Create bigger goals broken into small manageable milestones and share them with your online support system so you have accountability partners to work on your goals with. Then work on each step and share your successes and your setbacks. Supportive people will celebrate your progress and offer support when you reach an obstacle. If you experience social anxiety you can start with small venues such as going to a coffee shop or a park to read. Then you may progress to events where you interact with others such as a cooking class or a community event. Getting involved in things in which you have interest makes it easier to connect with others because you all share the same interest. For example, if you love photography, take a class or join a local club, or if you like exercise, go to a class at a local gym and eventually you will become familiar with others and be able to strike up a conversation. If social anxiety is preventing you from taking small steps, you may need to work with a therapist to get professional insight and help to be able to take your first steps.
Profile: Itsokay091
Itsokay091 on Sep 11, 2019
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We feel lonely when we are unable to communicate with others , when we feel outcast , misunderstood , bullied or sometimes just because we don't want to bother others with our emotions that we see as an ISSUE for us. And when we feel lonely the best therapy we could think of is isolating ourselves , we pull our guards up and don't let anyone in because of all the unpleasant experiences we have already had. To some extent it's okay too , I mean protecting ourselves is not a bad idea, it just becomes a concern when we deny to come out of this isolation , when our fears are so big that they doesn't allow us to trust another human. But honestly speaking there are beautiful people in the world who are willing to hold our hand and guide us through this darkness of loneliness , all it needs us is to ask for it. How can we make that one relationship/friendship work if we grow our Walls and doesn't give that 1 out of 100 people a chance with whom we connect? Give yourself a chance by giving them an opportunity to know you. I think if you deal with loneliness , you might not feel the need to isolate yourself. Try to participate in life whether it's about taking walk in a park , talking to family/friends/strangers , listening to your favorite music , reading a book , treating yourself in a restaurant, exploring some new dimension of life or any other thing of your interest. Just do it. I know it will take every ounce of energy to do this but believe me it will be worthy at the end 😊
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Maybe instead of completely isolating yourself, participate in solo activities or find a hobby/something you enjoy and are interested in. Completely cutting yourself is likely to not do you any good, just learn to enjoy your own company, and always speak to someone about how you feel as it's not always easy to deal with problems alone. Speak about how you feel with friends and family and people you trust and they may be able to help you in ways you couldn't help yourself. Talking to someone, whether they're a friend or a stranger, helps more than people think.
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