How can I be sure I am lonely?

Does feelings you feel really need validation and proof from within yourself? If someone feels lonely they would know it, maybe not instantly be aware but they will know eventually, especially if such feels are constant. My own checklist of feeling lonely comprise of being unable to connect with people and my surroundings. As someone that genuinely wants connection with the world around her, i would feel lonely if that requirement of mine isn't met. I also would feel lonely if I felt misunderstood. A person can be surrounded with so many people but if none of them takes the effort/ understand said person.. the person would still feel lonely. It's not about how many people in your life you have, it's about having someone that truly gets you to eases that feeling of loneliness.

You know when you are amongst those who you love and still feel an emptiness that they cant fix. A pain in your chest which isnt real but hurts deeply. A voice in your head thats you but not. A hollow ache that cant seem to be ebbed by drugs or alcohol or comforts which once soothed you. When your in a crowed room but still feel lonely. When you want to be alone to feel that gnawing ache instead of being near those you love knowing they cant help what you feel and are not responsible yet you despise them for what they cant solve.

Loneliness is a feeling, first and foremost, and I am someone who believes in the validity of feelings. If you feel something, then you are definitely feeling it, because if you doubt even that then you can't really believe anything you perceive. (You know, all information we take in is affected by the very chemical levels that determine everything we feel so if you can't trust your feelings to be real then you can't trust your senses either. As to whether you should trust your senses, that is a very different philosophical debate.) Loneliness can be mixed in with other feelings though, and even if you are surrounded by people who care about you, if you hit a particularly dark spot of, for example, depression, you may feel lonely even though you have a strong support system already. It's important to identify other things you're feeling: do you have signs of depression or anxiety with your loneliness, or does your loneliness come and go on its own, independent of these other emotions? You need to really be aware of the issue and of your past in order to know how to solve it.

Being alone and being lonely are two different things. You know you are lonely when the room is filled with people you know and yet you don't felt connected to these people. You lose yourself even with so many people and your heart is not where your body is. You know you are lonely when you try so hard to share your emotions but nobody is there to listen. You feel lonely during your hardest times because you think nobody can understand what you are going through. It is really easy to get lost in the lonesome. o

There is no one, single way of being sure, because everybody has a different definition of loneliness, and everybody has a different threshold for what they can emotionally handle. It takes introspection and an analysis of one's own environment and how it relates to them to understand how they are feeling, and why. Even then, the anxious and/or depressed mind might overthink how they are feeling, further complicating the question. They might think they want to be alone, but in reality need somebody to be there for them. Sometimes we are not lonely for the physical contact with somebody else, but rather we are lonely for somebody who actually understands.

You're lonely when you feel lonely. That's the only requirement. Even if you have a large circle of friends or family you hang out with all the time, if you feel lonely, you're lonely. So then, how do you know you -feel- lonely? I suppose you feel lonely when you're wishing you had someone to meaningfully share something with. Whether it's sharing physical contact, sharing ideas, or sharing the same room or space. This is why you can feel lonely even when there's people around you. They might be near you, but you might be unable to share the thing you want with them. Or perhaps you feel like they won't understand the message behind your act of sharing.

There's a difference between alone and lonely. Being lonely leans towards feeling badly about being apart from everyone and disconnected from everyone. Lonely feels like a longing to be with someone. Being alone feels like you are choosing to be alone. I think of it as being ok about being alone. I call it Sanctuary time. For each person, a specific amount of alone time is required. Some people never want to be alone. Some people can handle days and weeks alone. There's no right about of alone time needed for each person. Lonely is a state of mind that you are not in alignment with being alone. You are noticing you are being alone and you long to be connected to someone. Pick up a phone and call a friend, or go out and change the scenery. Maybe that's all you need.

You are never lonely, this is only a feeling we have in ourselves. Be alone doesn't mean you are lonely. You are surrounded by millions of different life forms around you that you can connect and communicate with. A pet, tree, even plants. flowers in and outside your home. We are too focused on humans only. You can feel lonely in a big city but feel the total opposite in a wooden cabin in a forest. These days we also have internet, multiplayer games, chat forums social media. Even music or a movie can you let yourself feel connected.

You know that you are lonely when you feel like you cannot to connect with others on a deeper, more intimate level, when you have no close friends or 'best' friends, when you have an overwhelming feeling of isolation regardless of where you are and who's around, when you have negative feelings of self-doubt and self-worth, when you feel like you don't have anyone to talk to, you find yourself taking really long and hot showers, you can't stop binge-watching shows, etc... Hope this helped a little.

When you have something( even its happy or sadness ) to talk/express and you feel no one really there to express, when you feel the love/care that y0u kept on others and the same person doesn't recognize that. Even when you were surrounded by hundreds, still not having anyone to standup with you.