Why is it that so many people who identify in a way that has attraction to the same gender end up falling for one of your best friends?

Speaking from personal experience, we tend to fall for our best friends because they are the people we are closest to. Our significant others are supposed to be our best friends as well and maybe while being around our best friends we start reading in too much into the small things they have always done around us. This may lead to us developing a romantic attraction where the other person may have platonic feelings only (or not!).

It is a societal norm for a pair of best friends to be of the same gender, and at a young age, we are made to socialize with those of the same perceived gender as us. Usually, one is best friends with an individual because they recognize that the bestie understands them, and they feel a special bond. The world can sometimes be a lonely and hostile place for LGBTQ+ peeps, so this intensifies the bond between and LGBTQ+ person and their bestie. And since besties are usually of the same gender.....welp.

Many people end up falling for people they grow close to and care about. That often times ends up being a friend.

People, regardless of gender, often fall in love with people who they care about and are/want to be close to. A best friend is someone who you already care deeply about and perhaps that is why we often fall in love with best friends.

Your best friend is someone, assumably of the same gender, that you are close to so it's understandable to fall in love or like them when you realize you like the same gender. Thats why most homosexuals first loves are their friends. It's completely normal. I myself am pansexual and I have found myself liking one of my friends. I felt a connection with them so it seemed fitting that they'd be my first girlfriend. I hope that helps you guys! I am generally pretty equipped with all LGBTQ+ issues so if you are seeking advice, please let me know and i'll try to help.

It is easy to fall in love with people we feel connected to and inseparable from. Best friends are people we are familiar with, we know a lot about them, we’ve shared vulnerable moments with them. These aspects of the relationship make it easy to feel connected and even to feel in love with a person. In relationships of any type, there tend to be different kinds of love, and often, in the most meaningful of relationships, different and multiple kinds of love can overlap one another. Thus, the familiarity and caring love of a “friend relationship” may or may not overlap with love which includes attraction.