Why does my gender/sexuality seem so complicated?

Gender and sexuality can be a complicated thing to think about, especially when you feel like you don't fit into any of the general labels. Labels are all well and good but sometimes you will find that you don't fit into any particular label or group and that is okay. It's about being you and not trying to change to fit in somewhere that you don't feel comfortable

Our sexuality and gender is somewhat complicated because its not always a case of am I this or am I that, sometimes finding the right labels or words to describe who we are takes time. We are all unique therefore our identities will be to.

Because at one moment, it may seem like you've found your label, and it sticks for a while. But maybe in a month, you see someone describe their sexuality online and think "hey, that's me!" You keep learning, so you keep discovering.

Good news: many people feel exactly like you when they are in the questioning phase, and eventually they found their answers! When you're questioning, it's important to try and understand what precisely is making it so difficult to realize what your sexuality is. Is it something related to your upbringing, maybe your family's mentality? Is it that you're not sure how to call the feelings you experience? Is it that you don't find a label that clearly describes who you are? The first step is to identify what is holding you back from understanding. Then you can work on it, trying to develop self-honesty and eventually self-acceptance. Looking for support can also be of great help: sharing thoughts and doubts with the LGBT community, for example, can be really helpful. After all, they went through the same phase as you, and they can help you seeing more clearly through it! And our 7Cups community is here to help as well!

For some people gender and/or sexuality can be extremely fluid and hard to pinpoint. I, for example, flux between identifying as non-binary and female because other days I feel more feminine and other days I don't feel much at all. The most important thing to do is not to shove yourself into one orderly box. There is still time to figure out how you identify in terms of gender and sexuality– and there are terms for those who tend to be fluid or fluxing in those areas. For example: genderfluid is being fluid in between genders and abroromantic/abrosexual is being fluid through orientations. Human minds are incredibly complex– but that's okay, and I wish you luck on finding the perfect terms for you.