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Why do people feel the liberty to ask personal questions about my sexual life when I "come out" or let them know my sexual orientation?

Profile: dhend0
dhend0 on Jan 11, 2015
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People are generally inquisitive, they're just most likely intrigued, however you shouldn't feel pressured to answer any questions you don't feel comfortable asking.
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Profile: StephFerret
StephFerret on Dec 28, 2015
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The nice answer is to say, "They are just curious" but my honest answer is that it's pretty rude, it is an example of entitlement and a show that they are uneducated and have decided to put it on you to educate them. Furthermore it is a way of highlighting that they perceive you as "other". You don't have to tell anyone anything you don't want to and it's ok to reinforce your if this makes you uncomfortable, it is understandable! If you have the patience to educate them, that's ok too. :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 14, 2015
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It often seems rude for the person to do this, but if they don't have a common sexual orientation, people get curious and want to know more from a real-life person.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 19, 2016
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People are curious and may be attempting to understand you by asking these questions. Answer only the ones you feel comfortable answering and don't forget to remind them that being LGBTQ is not all about sex and shouldn't be discussed only in those terms. It's about affection, love, and companionship - just like heterosexual relationships are.
Profile: helpfuldot
helpfuldot on May 27, 2015
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Individuals are curious and many times don't seem to think through what exactly it is they are asking. If someone asks you a question about your sexuality you don't have to answer them. They may want to learn about different genders and orientations, but you aren't obligated to be the one to teach them.
Profile: Serenadex
Serenadex on Jun 7, 2015
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Because people are curious about things they didnt experienced by themself, therefore they try to get to know something about it from people who are "into this"
Profile: Josephs1231
Josephs1231 on Dec 29, 2015
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Most persons just want to know what the life of a gay/bi or tans is most are curious and may have a liking towards it or just want to have a knowledge
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Aug 12, 2019
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Some people just don't understand how personal it is, and they think that just because you told them about your orientation you're ok with telling them anything. Someone, because of prejudice, believes that people of certain orientation are overly focused on sex and so more ready to talk about it. When it happens, you can just tell them it's something personal, and you simply told them about your orientation because you wanted them to know that part of you, but your sexual life is yours alone.
Profile: kindheartedSky78
kindheartedSky78 on Apr 2, 2015
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I hear what you are saying, I am not sure why people feel that they can ask what they want just because you have disclosed to them your sexual orientation? I am wondering how it is that you respond when these questions are asked
Profile: FaithfulPerson
FaithfulPerson on Apr 8, 2015
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I think that people are curious because either they don't understand and would like to or they are questioning their own sexual orientation. I find it helpful to create and maintain healthy boundaries in a situation such as this. For example, if someone asks me a question I am uncomfortable answering, I might say something like this... "Dear Person, I understand that you are curious about my sexual orientation. However, I do not feel comfortable sharing with you detailed information about my sexual life."
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