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Why do I seem to be attracted to my friends that are the same gender as me?

Profile: livisapenguin
livisapenguin on Nov 10, 2015
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Everyone is on a spectrum of sexuality. Some are more on the heterosexual side, some lean more towards homosexuality, some are somewhere in between the two, or not even on the spectrum. There's a lot of sexualities out there and there's nothing wrong with being attracted to the same gender. You may only be curious as well, and it's completely normal to be bi-curious. There's a difference between feeling attracted and having feelings for another. You could do some research into the LGBTQ community, talk to a listener, or maybe even talk to your friends about it.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 30, 2015
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I while ago I faced a similar situation to you, I found that I had a crush on my best friend who happened to be the same gender as me. I tried to ignore the feeling but it made me resent him. Finally in opened up to him and it has only brought us closer together.
Profile: SupportiveSliceOfPie
SupportiveSliceOfPie on Feb 1, 2016
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It seems like you may belong to the LGBTQ+ community! You should search it up to find out more. No matter what some people may tell you, it's perfectly normal. In fact, I belong to the community myself :)
Profile: Kaysha
Kaysha on Oct 11, 2016
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Perhaps you simply just find them attractive, these feelings don't always mean you are gay, bisexual. etc. I've seen my friends all dressed up and thought 'Wow she's beautiful' but it doesn't necessarily mean you're attracted in a homosexual sense. Experiment with these feelings and see where they lead you.
Profile: GlowingDreamer15
GlowingDreamer15 on Oct 8, 2019
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Same gender attraction is mostly known as homosexuality (or, if you prefer, homoromantism). Being attracted to your friend can be in a platonic or romantic way, as well as other ways. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Try to understand your feelings better to figure out what you want. Do you want more than friendship? Or do you like it the way it is right now? Love is never easy, especially if you find yourself in a same-sex relationship or with a crush on your friend. I wish you the best of luck in your discovery of yourself and, please remember to take your time!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 22, 2021
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Being attracted to people of the same gender, probably means you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, or any of many more sexualities. Gay means a not-female liking another male, or someone liking someone of their own gender, this includes a non-male liking a female, however that is more commonly referred to as lesbian. Bisexual means be of any gender and like males and females. Pansexual refers to someone who likes people of all genders. And polysexual refers to someone liking people of multiple genders, but not all. None of these are choices, if you are on the LGBTQIA+ spectrum, then you didn't choose to be, many people think others did chose it, while they did not, I happen to be pansexual, and everyone I know is fine with it, but that is not always the case, so be careful.
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