Why do I seem to be attracted to my friends that are the same gender as me?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Jun 22, 2021
bountifulMemory59
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Nov 3, 2015
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Do you think you may be gay ? That would explain why you are attracted to people of the same gender
Either that or there may be positive qualities that make you feel attraction.to your friends it may be you admire them / want to be like them
If you feel you may be gay maybe this is something you need to look at exploring
Feel free to contact a listener any time to talk things through
Anonymous
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Jun 16, 2015
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I always feel more attracted to people who are the same gender to me because I feel like we can relate more. We most likely have more in common and have shared experiences in the past.
Chaliercy
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Jul 7, 2015
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You may be discovering your sexuality, something very positive and forms part of your social identity. Everyone goes through this, then one should not be afraid but feel happy to be discovering more about you!
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2015
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it could have nothing to do with gender; some sexualities aren't based on an attraction to gender. such as pansexuality; attraction, or romantic love toward people of any sex or gender identity. there's also demisexual, which is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. or perhaps you're bisexual and just haven't discovered it yet. i guess what i'm trying to say is, there are many things it could be, but it's all completely normal and if anything it's an opportunity to learn more about yourself and grow. (on a side note, i used a lot of labels for sexuality in this, but please never feel like you have to label yourself! these are just well known terms, but if you don't feel like any of them fit you, then that's perfectly alright too! just be you♥)
believeinyoursef27
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Jul 13, 2015
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It could be a way of your mind experiencing different aspects of your sexualality, it all comes down to what you truly feel though. If you like the same gender, express it. Be happy with your honest self.
EmpathyAeauria
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Sep 21, 2015
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Attraction to same gender friends is normal for some people. You could be gay or bisexual or just simply curious.
Greatlistener87
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May 10, 2016
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You could be bisexual or just gay, but that does not matter just as long as u are happy with the decision you made and the partner that is with you accepts u the way you are.
Aayla
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Sep 30, 2019
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It depends on what you mean with "attracted". You may simply admire them a lot, or there may be something more romantical and/or physical about it. The best way to find out is to analyze your feelings and sensations, imagine yourself with them in different contexts, and see what feels good and what doesn't. In case you realize yojr orientation is different than what you thought, that's ok! Take your time to come to terms with it. You'll see it's absolutely fine to just like whoever you like!
Anonymous
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Jun 30, 2015
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There are a number of reasons that could be possible. Do you think it's something serious or is it what they call a "girl crush"?
Anonymous
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Jul 21, 2015
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If it's sexual/romantic attraction then you might be queer,it really depends on,but if so,welcome to the club,friend!
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