Why do I have to tell my parents that I am queer but my straight friends do not have to tell their parents that they are straight?

Parents just assume that their child/children are straight because it's the most common sexuality. They do not expect other sexuality therefore they must be informed by the child.

I think because society hasn't 100% accepted the LGBTQ community. Most people are straight/cis, so they just assume everyone is straight/cis, though that's not always the case.

Unfortunately, the world tends to assume everyone is straight unless stated otherwise - this bias is called 'heteronormativity'.

Because of the society, because of the our religions. They said us 'being normal is love opposite sex." They still dont get it 'love is love.'

I know it doesn't really make sense, but that is where our society is at right now. I hope that we can grow to not expect our children to be straight, so people won't have to come out. But also, remember, even though coming out is something that many people feel is important, if you don't want to for any reason, you don't have to.

I've actually always asked myself this question. It's like if they say "Oh I'm straight." They don't say anything but if you tell them that you're queer, they make a giant deal out of it like what?

This is because in the society its a norm to be straight. Its published in movies and so on. But if you are different from straight it will be a new thing to many even your parents as it is not a norm or widely spoken of.

Okay imagine your straight male friend came home and told his parents he had a girlfriend. Would they be very surprised? Probably not. At least not because it's a girl. If your parents don't already think that you're gay they probably will be surprised if you tell them that your partner is of the same sex as you. Therefore you tell them. They won't be surprised of your partner after your outing. But you can choose if you want to make it a spectacular thing to step out of the closet or if you, just like your straight friends, only introduce your partner without discussing your sexuality before. Nobody can force you to officially announce your gayness.

Technically, if you don't want to tell your parents that you are queer, you don't have to, you'll just be keeping a big part of your life from them. It is kind of unfortunate that it is the way it is and that it has to be such a big deal to "come out" to your family, and that everyone is assumed to be straight unless they say otherwise. It's just the mindset that everyone is in, that straight is the norm, which I hope will change as time passes.

That is something I don't understand either. I guess it is the "coming out" thing that causes the hush hush in the LGBTQAI+ community. But just don't say anything and come home with your boyfriend or girlfriend and see how your parents react.