Why do I always struggle showing my true self to everyone?
Anonymous
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Feb 7, 2015
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That's an interesting question. It's one that I'm still dealing with right now. I don't know *why* it happens, because that's different for every person. For me, it's partly because of a sense of vulnerability and fear of judgment from those who know me. I can also feel like there's no one who will understand and no one I can trust.
But no matter what the reason is, it seems like you do want to show your true self and be more open and unafraid of expressing yourself. If you keep on trying, work out the reasons for why you struggle and find ways to combat them, you can achieve this.
Nightshade262
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Dec 29, 2015
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I'm afraid that they'll leave me. So many people have left in my life and I'm scared to show my true self because of that.
Aayla
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Oct 7, 2019
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It may be because you have internalized something from a close-minded upbringing or environment. It may be because of fears of people's reaction. There could be many reasons, but it helps a lot to surround yourself with supportive people and work on your self-love to increase your confidence and strength when it comes to opening up. It helps to know you're not alone!
Greatlistener87
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Jan 26, 2016
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Being true to yourself is a really important thing. When you struggle by being someone else or not true to yourself in other words you tend to find things harder to deal with and you will always feel insecure worrying that someone will find out the truth about you. The people around you can also vary when you are not yourself as to when you are yourself (exp: Friends). You will always want to have friends with you that knows your true self rather than the ones that don't. Cause the ones that don't finds it easier to leave when they find out the truth.
avocadoallyson
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Feb 6, 2017
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Showing your true self to everyone is difficult because it can feel very vulnerable. Often we can be ourselves around people that love and support us because we know they will accept us, but we struggle to be ourselves around unfamiliar people because we don't know how they will react. It's OK to be more reserved around some people. It doesn't mean you aren't being your true self: it just means that you're establishing trust.
Flags
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May 17, 2015
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Everyone is struggling to show everyone their true self. It could because of the norms society has dictated upon us or merely because of the upbringing we received and their environmental factors. The best way to feel better is to stop and think whether your actions will hurt others and if they really don't, I couldn't a legit enough reason to restrict yourself.
yurannus
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Sep 14, 2015
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Just come and say loudly who you really are you dont have to struggle if they dont like you or they have a problem with YOUR TRUE SELF its their problem then do not think too much about other peoples problem!!
LilGreenBird
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Sep 25, 2017
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We do this to protect ourselves from unwanted judgement. Honestly this is normal. The way you act around a stranger compared to your closest friend is completely different. You know your boundaries, so feel free to open up at your own pace.
YoureNotAloneDuringTheTime
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Aug 10, 2020
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You think you’ll get judged, be left out, be called the weird one, and think you wont be accepted. The reason people even started to struggle with this is because of the high standards of society. Normal is not even “normal†at all. It’s just a “perfectly respectable valid human being†chosen by society. You also might have started struggling just recently because of stress, or anxiety. And trust me, the advice just go and be yourself is so not helpful. You have to give yourself time. To some people they can meditate and talk their way out if the struggle, but some others wont. They’ll have to encourage themselves, and it might even take 3 years. And it’s completely fine. The time will come soon for you to realize you’re valid no matter what society says. The time hasn’t even come to me, though.
Anonymous
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Apr 30, 2015
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It happens to everyone, I am still struggling with that. There is nothing wrong with being self conscious, but in the end of the day it is you that can make the decision.
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