Why do fellow LGBT people not want to discuss about their sexuality when they are just as alone in this as me?

The reason an individual is uncomfortable talking about their sexual/gender identity vary greatly from person to person. However, there are a couple common reasons. First, they haven't come to terms with it themselves. What someone says and what someone actually believes can indeed contradict each other. A person can say they are comfortable with themselves when in reality they are still fighting for self approval. This makes talking about it, quite frankly, hard. After all, talking about something you're unsure of tends to make people think they're weak or silly. These thoughts lead to them feeling embarrassed to discuss anything around they're sexual/gender identity until they feel more confident with themselves. Second, it's new. Say a particular person grew up in a homophobic/transphobic (bi-phobic, ace-phobic, etc) environment. In other words, they spent years having to keep their mouths shut for their own safety. Transitioning from that situation to one where they are expected to be open is a drastic shift. In a way, they built a habit of not talking. Then all of sudden they're expected to talk. That in its self breeds an uncomfortable atmosphere to discuss sexual/gender identity. Thirdly, they're not safe. They may still be in an environment or vicinity that's toxic and potentially dangerous if word gets out that they're a part of the LGBTQ+ community. This situation will mean they have to be cautious about who they tell and how much. After all, they're safety is of the upmost importance and they should never be pressured into talking about something that could put them at risk. Lastly, they merely could just be the type of person that prefers to keep it to themselves. And that's okay. If a person isn't ready to talk about their sexual/gender identity, no matter the reason, (and they don't have to give one) it should be respected.

It can be hard for queer and trans people to open up about their sexualities and gender identities. A lot of queer and trans folks carry scars about their experiences, and have difficulty trusting strangers. Others, however, who have grown up in more progressive areas or not struggled with their identities may not consider it to be all that much of a factor in their lives, and therefore might not have much to say on the topic. Try seeking out online communities, forms etc. or connect to a listener on here who specializes in LGBT matters, such as myself. I'm sorry you're having a hard time connecting with your community.

Some individuals within the LGBT community may, for whatever reason, not feel comfortable disclosing their sexual preferences. These reasons could include safety/security, personal modesty, or even obligations to a career or relationship. Other individuals may lack a distinct sexuality or identify as asexual / demisexual. While the community encourages those who can come out to do so, the experiences of those who do not are just as valid.

Maybe they are uncomfortable as who they are, and it is taking them a while to feel comfortable and excepting of themselves before they can talk about it to others. It may also be triggering.

Fellow LGBT people can be uncomfortable talking about their sexuality for a handful of reasons. Maybe they're still in the closet to some people. Maybe they're insecure and ashamed about their sexuality. It's important not to push them to talk about it if they don't want to. They might be very lonely, so offer support, but if they don't want to discuss, don't make them.

Some are insecure about their sexuality and doesn't want to discuss it until they are certain. If they put themselves in the LGBTQ+ category, that doesn't mean they are fully secure yet. Just give them some time :)

Some people find it hard to admit that they are who they are if others around them, especially those who are the main people in their life, won't acknowledge the fact themselves. To talk about their sexuality is to admit that they have that sexuality status which is more daunting to some people than it may seem. Others, just want privacy. For example, I won't go to support groups because it's my business and no one else's. I also don't want them to take pity upon me. There could of course be more underlying issues but the main thing you can do is to be supportive and to never push someone into talking about anything.

Sometimes it can be difficult to accept yourself or to discuss something like this. Everyone needs time and you're not alone.

Other individuals process things differently than others. There are so many resources available to the LGBT community today. Other individuals may be scared to discuss the topic as well.

Often people will still feel scared worried that maybe the person isn't being 100% truthful especially online when the subject of trolls are present. When someone feels alone especially in difficult 'hot' situations they tend to back off in fear of being judged or scorned. Personally it took me year to accept my sexuality and when the part of discussing came about I was terrified again I felt almost fake that people wouldn't believe me and would shun me for being silly and making fun and that was the worst thing when you've finally found accepting people. It takes time for people to open up especially about sensitive issues like sexuality but with time they will open up and discuss it with you the important thing is to not pressure them because then you could cause them to hold back longer, everyone is ready in their own time just wait it'll be worth it :)