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Why am I not able to feel romantic love?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 12, 2015
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Romantic love is, in my perspective, just one of the many forms love can take. Let me start by saying that there is nothing wrong with not experiencing romantic love. Perhaps you could identify with one of the romantic orientations such as aromantic (doesn't experience romantic attraction), demiromantic (experiences romantic attraction only after establishing an emotional bond), grey/grayromantic (experiences romantic attractions on rare occasions). Or perhaps there are other reasons for this that you can discover by practicing self evaluation. Regardless the reason, know it is okay to not experience love in the same way others do.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 7, 2015
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This isn't a problem, and there isn't a reason. Some people are simply aromantic, or aro for short. They do not feel romantic attraction to any genders. Although they might feel sexual or platonic attraction, aro people simply cannot feel romantic attraction, and that's okay!
Profile: oliviab7
oliviab7 on Apr 12, 2015
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Perhaps you're over-thinking the concept of what romantic love truly is. It's confusing to understand what romantic love is nowadays because we see so many ideas of it in media. Romantic love doesn't mean that every time you look at the person you love, you feel a pang of wanting to be with them or passion. Rather, it means that you would do anything to make this person happy, you care about their feelings, and you consider your relationship with them a high priority to you.
Profile: Becamuniz
Becamuniz on Jan 14, 2015
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Maybe now is not the time and you just want to have fun wait a bit and your time will come okay?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 13, 2016
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You could be aromantic. Aromantics have no desire to pursue romantic relations with another person. Aromantics can sometimes be in a sexual relationship, but they don't feel any desire to seek out a romantic one. That's not to say they CAN'T experience romantic love. Sometimes, aromantics do feel romantic love after being in a sexual relationship for a while.
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Jul 30, 2019
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Sexual and romantic orientations do not always coincide. Just like some people are asexual, some are aromantic, meaning they don't experience romantic attraction. And that's ok! You can still be happy with all sort of person-to-person connections that you feel comfortable with - friendship, intellectual-emotional connection, sexual relationships... Anything is great as long as it makes you feel good! Love is not the only say to happiness.
Profile: miaesh
miaesh on Apr 18, 2015
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Well a lot of people are a bit disconnected from the romantic side. And it's fine, love can be shown in a lot of ways, romance doesn't have to be the only way.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 27, 2015
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Aromantics experience little to no romantic attraction. Deminromantics only experience romantic attraction after a close bond is formed. Not everyone feels attraction in the same way. Everyone is different, as are their preferences.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 23, 2016
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Our goal is becoming man .Lust is lowest rung . As we go on evolving we can feel higher levels such as romance , unselfish love etc, Where there is only 'You' not "Me' is highest rung ..i,e, You love me not still I love you as i find happiness in your happiness only. This is highest kind of love and evolution is the key . only everyone is on different rung climbing. Everyone going to be there someday .:)
Profile: leahlistens2
leahlistens2 on Feb 15, 2016
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Romantic love comes easy for some, other people it takes time. A real bond and trust need to be developed and one day that person who was just your friend yesterday will look like the love of your life the next. Give love time and don't try to rush it. Things may surprise you and fall into place
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