Why am I gay? I hate myself.

Oh, honey. First of all, you need to stop beating yourself up. Being gay is NOT a choice, and the sooner you accept it, the better it will be. Sometimes, it might be hard to do so. Many people may be against you. 2015 (going on 16) and we still have a ton of homophobes. But don't let them get to you. Know that you're not alone.

Being gay is very hard to come to terms with. There are a lot of great communities which can help.

You shouldn't feel self hatred due to your newly discovered sexuality. If you identify yourself as LGBTQI, then attempt at embracing yourself. In no way is it wrong for you to be gay. If you are going through puberty, you will experience new feelings of attraction, possibly towards the same sex. This does not make you "gay", nor does the opposite make you straight. Teens will experience new attractions, to a single gender or others. This is a way of sorting through sexual feelings, and is common. Whether the above puberty note applies to you or not, you should always attempt at embracing yourself. You are who you are, and you should always love yourself for who you are.

That's how you've been born, it's no one's fault and you shouldn't hate yourself. The LGBT+ community is great and accepting and if you meet some people from it, you may feel a lot better

Regardless of any controversy, science has proven that being gay is not a choice. There are a lot of complicated factors that may go into our sexuality, including environment, genetics, and hormonal changes during pregnancy, but we do know that it has nothing to do with any moral or personal choice, nor does it relate to any sort of previous trauma. There are great resources available, however, for you to better understand your sexuality and find others going through similar circumstances; the CDC has some links to a few of the many resources available here at http://www.cdc.gov/lgbthealth/youth-resources.htm.

First of all, please don't hate yourself. You are worth so much more than that, you are a beautiful person. Being gay is a natural occurence, in fact homosexual behaviour is found in many different animal species. Unfortunately some people think it is a choice. Whereas a lot more people think that you are born gay and it is as much a part of who you are as your brown hair is or your dimples. Eventually I hope that your sexuality can become something that even if you are not proud of it, you can accept. It is a long road but one that can bring you many friends and much happiness. If you need someone to talk to, the Trevor project is great for LGBT people and of course we here at 7 cups are always happy to listen. Good luck.

First of all, congratulations on figuring out your sexual preference! So many people struggle with this and it's great that you've gotten in touch with this part of your identity. You're gay because you identify as a male and you find others who identify as male attractive. It's okay. It's normal and it's healthy. Why do you hate yourself? People of all social backgrounds, genders, social classes, ethnicities can be considered homosexual - you're not alone in this.

I'm homosexual as well, and for a long time, I despised myself! I hated not being like the other people in my school, I hated going to church and hearing them talk about how bad homosexuality, and I hated that no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't change. But your sexuality is just another thing that makes you, you. I don't know why some people are born homosexual, and I don't know why some people discriminate those who are. But don't beat yourself up over something that doesn't define you, because you're worth more than what the labels say, and you're worth more than what people think of you:)

You are you, and there is no need to hate yourself. Everyone deserves to be themselves. I know how it feels, but we are always here to help anytime you need it.

You're only gay because you were born that way. Just like how heterosexual people are heterosexual because they were born that way. But you don't have to hate yourself. Our society may not be the most accepting one when it comes to this matters. But acceptance should start in yourself.