When should I come out of the closet?
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DapperRainbow
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May 23, 2016
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I love this question. You should come out of the closet when you are dressed to be who you are. Come out on your own time. When you are comfortable. When you are confident. When you are ready. Coming out isn't necessary at any moment in time. Not until you feel like you want to. You can come out tomorrow or you can come out in 20 years. The time to come out is different for everyone and you'll know in your heart when the time is right because you'll find yourself inclined to scream it out at the top of your lungs.
Anonymous
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Apr 10, 2015
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When you feel that you are safe, and that you will be safe telling. It is not best to come out when there is risk, but drop small ideas on sexualities and genders and what-not to see how the ones you are asking react.
Kel4055
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Nov 12, 2014
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When you are finished getting dressed. No I am joking, if you feel comfortable revealing your sexuality with your family members or if you are just plain tired of hiding it. Either way, you pick when you're ready and maybe you might never be.
Gracey
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Nov 8, 2014
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Whenever you feel comfortable enough to do so, it can be a scary thought but it is okay but take your time.
melodyowl130
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Apr 3, 2015
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You should judge your environment first. If it is safe to do so, then go right on ahead. If you ever have any doubts with anything, it is best not to come out until a later date.
Waterbear
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Jul 27, 2015
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When it's physically, emotionally and financially safe for you. And when you feel ready. Don't let anyone pressure you to come out before you're ready, because they may not understand that there might be worse consequences for others than for themselves. However, the longer you wait, the greater the chances are that your family will find out on their own, which takes away your chance to control the setting and can leave you vulnerable to accusations of dishonesty. Most families suspect ahead of time and some family members will do some quiet snooping while others prefer to ignore the possibility.
Anonymous
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Nov 9, 2014
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To be honest, when you come out of the closet should depend on you. You shouldn't come out until you feel comfortable with who you are and until you're sure you're ready to come out of the closet.
Scrivener
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Nov 15, 2014
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When you're ready. There's never a single thing that makes you ready. It's always taking a leap, and you have to be ready for the results, whatever they will be. It's one of the scariest things that I've ever done, and yet, I don't regret it for a second.
poeticjewel95
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Nov 6, 2014
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Whenever you are ready and prepared to. You have to be comfortable enough to be able to fully confess and tell what and who you truly are.
Anonymous
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Jul 16, 2018
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Whenever you want to. It’ll be hard and there really is no perfect time to do it. Never come out though if there is a chance of danger presented to you
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