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What are asexuality and demisexuality? Do I need to put a label on my feelings?

Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Jun 10, 2019
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Asexuality is an orientation that consists in not feeling sexual attraction towards anyone, but romantic attraction is still possible. Demisexuality consists in only feeling sexual attraction towards people to whom you are deeply emotionally/romantically connected. There is no necessity for you to label yourself if you don't feel comfortable with labels or if you feel no label correctly describes who you are. Labels are only there to be used when it makes you feel comfortable, they don't have to become a burden, and they're not mandatory at all!
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Profile: bunnyofdarkness
bunnyofdarkness on Apr 1, 2015
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You never need to put a label on your feelings. Some people like labels because they make them feel part of a group, but if you don't feel a label fits you you don't need to use one. Follow your own feelings. Asexuality is an absence of sexual desires. Demisexuality is less well defined (I think), but is essentially that you don't feel sexual feelings until you have formed a deep emotional connection.
Profile: JinkzKitty
JinkzKitty on Jun 10, 2015
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Asexual is a lack of sexual desire. Demisexual is a sexual desire that is only built after an emotional connection has been established. You should never feel like you need to label yourself even if these do sound like you though.
Profile: AndyWithers
AndyWithers on Jun 22, 2015
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Asexual -> Someone who is not sexually attracted to people, and an umbrella for asexuality-related | Demisexual -> Someone who experiences sexual attraction only after an emotional connection has been formed.A demisexual is someone who is only sexually attracted to people whith whom they have established a close emotional bond. | And no,you dont need to! :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 22, 2015
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You do not unless it makes you feel better. As for asexuality and demisexuality, Asexuality is NO sexual attraction and Demisexuality is having sexual attraction AFTER forming a very strong bond.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 22, 2015
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Asexuality is when you don't feel sexual attraction to anyone. You may still feel romantic attraction, and you may still want to have sex. It's "I want to have sex," (for some people) but not "I want to have sex with you in particular." Demisexual is asexual except after getting to know a person and forming a connection with them, then maybe the "I want to have sex with you in particular," will develop. You absolutely don't need a label. If you don't find a fitting one, and are comfortable with not having one, you don't need to keep searching.
Profile: cvga
cvga on Mar 7, 2016
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an asexual person is someone that does not feel any sexual drive for another person, whoever a demisexual person is someone that may have a sexual drive but only with someone that has created a strong emotional bond, and labels are not necessary as long as you feel comfortable with you are
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Apr 25, 2016
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Asexuality:without sexual feelings or associations & Demisexuality: A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. This 2 sexuality are different in their own ways. It is good if you can identify who u are for yourself and not for anyone else. Labeling yourself is just so that people can put a label on what you are and that is not important.
Profile: Claire91
Claire91 on May 30, 2016
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Disclaimer: I am not an expert, but I will try to answer this question as best I can, and hopefully in a non offensive manner! From what I know, asexuality refers to a sexual orientation in which one does not feel a desire to have sexual intercourse. I believe romantic love is still present, but sex is not of interest. If I'm remembering correctly, demisexuality is on the spectrum of asexuality; however, those who are demisexual may still have the desire for sex but tend to form romantic relationships cautiously and slowly. There is definitely a better definition for demisexuality that I am forgetting right now, so I apologize. As for needing to put a label on your feelings, I would say NO, you do not need to label yourself if you do not want to. Many societies tend to be fixated on labeling and putting people into boxes. I personally believe sexuality is fluid. That said, I think I am generally more comfortable labeling my sexual orientation, but sometimes I feel confused about it. It is normal to feel confused, and it is normal not to put a label on your feelings. It is also normal to put a label on your feelings. The concept of normal is subjective, and no one should pressure you to put a label on your feelings. Your sexuality is /your/ decision and /your/ business. Take care!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 12, 2016
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As a LGBT teen I really dislike labelling myself as I see myself as a person, no matter who I come across no matter how I feel whatever gender people are is not a concern to me. To me love is love. Labels are really not required at all! asexuality simply putting is the attraction sexually to nobody. and has no desire to anything sexually. but asexual people can still be attracted to people and have happy relationships. Where Demisexual comes in is where you can be attracted to someone and be sexually involved but only when your deeply emotional involved with that person.
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