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What are asexuality and demisexuality? Do I need to put a label on my feelings?

Profile: Bossuet
Bossuet on May 28, 2015
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Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Demisexuality is when sexual attraction is only ever formed after knowing a person well. Grey-asexuality is when you rarely experience sexual attraction. It is important to note that sexual attraction, romantic attraction, and aesthetic attraction are all different. While it is not necessary to label your feelings (particularly if you are comfortable with how you feel), labels can provide supportive communities, validation, and a better understanding of yourself. Labels are never necessary, but exist for if you need them.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 31, 2015
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Labels can help validate how you feel and find others who feel similarly, but you never need a label if you don't want one. You can also change your label at any point, if you find one you feel more comfortable with or describes you better. Asexuality is both an individual label and the name of a spectrum of labels that includes demisexuality. An asexual person does not experience sexual attraction at all, whereas a demisexual person will only experience sexual attraction to some people they've formed close emotional bonds with. Sexual attraction is a gut feeling, pull, or allure toward a specific person in which you want to partake in sexual activities with them. An asexual person never feels this, whereas someone on the asexual spectrum may feel it occasionally. Many demisexual people experience it just a few times in their lives, and sometimes start out identifying as asexual until they learn more about themselves. Someone not on the asexual spectrum, in comparison, will feel sexual attraction as often as several times a day. However, sexual is only one of many types of attraction, and someone on the asexual spectrum may (or may not) feel other types of attraction, such as romantic. However you feel, whether there's a label for it or not, whether you want a label or not, it's real and valid and normal and okay.
Profile: amiableAmy
amiableAmy on Jun 6, 2015
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Asexuality typically describes a lack of sexual attraction with low or no sexual activity. Demisexuality typically describes an inability to feel sexual attraction without a strong emotional bond. Labeling your sexual identity can be a helpful means of articulating your preferences to others or yourself. However, if you feel a specific label doesn't accurately or entirely reflect your feelings, it won't convey the correct ideas & there is no obligation to use it.
Profile: amazingHeart17
amazingHeart17 on Oct 16, 2015
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Demisexuality is basically where you are not attracted to someone unless you have formed an emotional connection with someone. There are different aspects of demisexuality, hetero demisexuality, homo demisexuality, bi demisexuality, etc. Asexuality also has different aspects, but the general definition is not having sexual attractions towards people. And you do not have to put labels on your feelings if you don't want to. I think that these labels have been put together to help give a sense of community, because it is sometimes hard to be completely accepted as a queer person. Labels are not for everyone, it's more of a personal preference.
Profile: trenchcoatangel
trenchcoatangel on Jan 22, 2015
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Someone who is asexual does not really feel sexual attraction. A demisexual can be sexually attracted to people but usually has a deep emotional connection to the person first. You don't ever need to label yourself if you don't feel comfortable with it but some people like myself like to have labels.
Profile: Sempiternal199
Sempiternal199 on Jan 25, 2015
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No, you never have to put a label on your feelings. Nothing ever has to be labeled, it's just how our society works. Society feels the need to label everything, but you don't have to label yourself
Profile: Artemidesia
Artemidesia on May 19, 2017
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Asexuality is when you are not sexually attracted to any person. Demisexuality is when you are sexually attracted to a person only after forming an emotional bond with them. Putting a label on your feelings is a personal choice. It is not necessary to label everything but if you feel like you'll be more comfortable after labelling yourself, then why not? Labels might help you understand yourself better but towards the end, they are just a personal choice. Some people don't like labelling themselves while some people do.
Profile: julesap3
julesap3 on May 30, 2016
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Asexuality is that you don't feel sexual attraction to other people. That doesn't mean you don't feel sexual at all. Some asexuals are sex repulsed while others don't find it necessary in a relationship. Demisexuality is that you only feel sexual attraction to the person you are dating. You never have to put a label on your feelings if you aren't comfortable or don't know how to label yourself. You can just go with the flow.
Profile: Cyprinn
Cyprinn on Sep 6, 2016
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Asexuality is when you generally don't feel sexual attraction or desire to any group of people. Demisexuality is when you don't experience sexual attraction UNLESS they have formed a strong emotional relationship with another person. You do not need to put a label on your feelings - only you know how you feel. Labels aren't necessary. You feel what you feel and that's OK.
Profile: charmingBeauty55
charmingBeauty55 on Feb 27, 2018
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Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. Feelings has no labels, they r free and no one have the right to label your feelings ❤
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