I've just come to terms with being transgender. How do I come out to my girlfriend of many years?

I think a good thing to say would be "I have just come to terms with being transgender, I'm still the same person you've always loved, I'm just finally able to be who I'm supposed to be, I hope you understand and that it won't change our relationship"

Be honest on how you feel. Tell her, that nothing about you except your gender identity is changing

I understand how hard it is to come to terms with that, as I have gone through that. The best thing to do is reqlize that this feeling is more than likely not going away. It’s not your fault that you feel this way, you were born this way. The best thing to tell your girlfriend is to have a serious talk with her and tell her how you feel and how long you’ve felt this way, I hope I could help :)

You can try to be as helpful as possible, maybe discuss it over coffee. At the end, remember it’s normal if she's upset and do all you can to help her.

Wonderful that you've come to term with being trans. For your partner, it can seem like sudden and unexpected and if you went forward on your way, they haven't had the chance to do so yet. There is no right or wrong way to come out : your way will be the right way :) What's important is to do it when you're ready, when you feel safe to do so, as casually as possible, and on your terms. Your girlfriend may have fears of her own, about your physical evolution (and if she'll still feel desire/attraction toward you), her sexual orientation (like wonder if she can still identify as lesbian/straight ? etc), the social pressure, and of course, all the preconceived ideas she can have about trans people. Transgender organizations can help to listen to her, to her fears and all, if you don't think you can do it (because, it's not our job to educate everyone, and sometimes we just can't, they're absolutely no shame in that!). If you feel like it, then you can try to reassure her by giving her access to information and ressources to help her understand better what you're going through, what it means and what it doesn't mean etc. The most important thing is for her to understand that coming-out is an act of trust and faith. It doesn't mean you lied to her, but on the contrary, that you feel comfortable and trusting enough to share that with her. It doesn't mean you'll become a stranger, but on the contrary, that you'll be able, finally, to be yourself and thrive :)

First off, I want to commend you on coming to terms with being transgender. Realizing you're trans can be extremely hard to figure out and then accept for yourself. I know it was for me. Now coming out is a personal journey. Make sure to do it when you are ready to. The truth can set you free, so being honest with her is your best bet. Make it clear how you feel and what that means, aka wanting to change your name, pronouns, hormones, and/or surgery. When a loved one comes out it can be very confusing, make sure to be clear on your feelings and your wants. Be true to yourself and don't allow anyone to push you back into the closet.

Although I can not tell you exactly how you should do this, I will tell you that you should only do this when you are ready. This is a big moment in your life, and I hope it goes well, but it is also important to consider all possible outcomes.

Well, first it's great that you're coming to terms with yourself. Don't rush this process, it's often easier talking to people about this if you understand how you feel about this yourself. Once you're more confident with that, explaining being transgender to anyone will be slightly easier. However, it can be incredibly difficult as we worry about the other person's reaction. But i would suggest going about it simply, try not to over complicate it. Possibly mention the topic or don't mention it at all and just talk about how you feel and express yourself but softly and slowly explain how you feel. If you've been together a while then hopefully you feel comfortable in her company. However, don't be surprised if she doesn't know what to say or seems different. People take these things at their own pace. But always try to educate them if they don't fully understand

If they're initially taken aback, don't take this too personally because a loved one transitioning is a big change in one's life. Just know that in a relationship, your role is to support your partner, so if they care for you it shouldn't change the way that they see you.

Have an open conversation with her. It's part of your identity, it's not something that you can avoid. If she loves you, and if she respects you, she'll understand. It's much better to talk to her than to hide a part of yourself.