I've just come to terms with being transgender. How do I come out to my girlfriend of many years?

That depends on how you feel she will view it. Do you think she will support you/do you know she supports trans? If so, it should be fine to just tell her. It may be best to sit down and have a talk with her about it.

This is a tough predicament. My partner actually just came out to me about this. We haven't been dating quite as long as you and your girlfriend, but basically they just told me in a calm way. Brought up that they were thinking about it for a while and keep coming back to it. It really depends on how she is generally about trans people also. My partner already knew that I was fine with trans people, so they probably felt more comfortable because of that. I would say ask her more generally about how she feels toward trans people before you share the news.

Sit down with her, tell her that the person she loved is still the same person make sure that you do it slowly and don't rush it in. Let her now that you will show her yourself she may or may not like it prepare yourself for it

There's no simple easy way of doing except being honest and straight forward, explain how you'd be happier and your feeling if she truly cares about you and your feelings she'll work through it. Even though, it may take time.

congratulations to coming to this point of your life. i know it's scary, but i promise you will be happier than you ever have been once you come out and transition. you have to be honest and raw with your girlfriend. if she doesn't support you, just know that she is not someone worth having in your life. you can do this. i believe in you.

First off I need to tell you that you shouldn't feel ashamed for being trans and feel like you need to conform to society's standards because of the feeling of rejection. Easier said than done huh? I know. BUT: If you fear violence (any kind, verbal or physical) for coming out, I think the logical answer for that would be that you shouldn't be with people that would be violent towards you. Best thing is to keep away from them and eliminate them from your life. (someimtes it's better to stay quiet if you live in a transphobic place (it's up to you to decide.)) How do you think your girlfriend sees trans people? What do you think her reaction would be to your coming out? How educated do you think she is on the topic? If you are not sure, then maybe try to make a remark on trans people. Say how you saw a trans person today, how it made you feel, that you have a trans friend maybe or comment on something related to the topic. Be creative around that. Though I wouldn't suggest lying. See her reaction. It's really hard to come out, that I personally know. You might want to be patient and open to some weird or possibly unpleasant questions. I would suggest you understand that the person might not be as informed as you are. You can suggest watching a trans documentary (there are plenty on youtube) or maybe some trans youtubers (FTM: Chase Ross, Ty Turner, Ryan Cassata, Charlesasher, tyince; MTF - Chloe Arden, Stef Sanjati, Riley J Dennis are pretty good; Non-binary: Ash Hardell, Circle A Tatoo...) These are all quite infomrative channels on the topic :) If you feel like you can't get up to her and talk about it, maybe leaving a letter or a text would be nice and giving her time to think about it. Maybe you'd want to bring a supportive friend to help you explain things to her, or bring her for a talk with your counselor/therapist if they agree to it. There are many ways you can come out.. I hope this helps.

Coming to terms to yourself about your identity is the most important thing. Coming out should be a safe process, and I advise you do so when you're absolutely sure you're in a safe condition. Assuming your girlfriend is supportive and loving, she'll still love you and support you as you thrive and transition. Maybe just sit down and give it to her full-frontal, it's okay to open up about raw feelings and emotions to your significant other. I hope things go well for you! Remember that no matter what, people love and accept you for who you are, and you can always come to 7cups if you need any extra support!

You need to be honest. If she cares about you she will understand, so let her know yourself as soon as possible so she doesn't find out from someone else.

She is your girlfriend and she should love you for the person you are. You being transgender does not make you a different person, you are still the same person on the inside and you are still the person she fell in love with. Just tell her how you have felt over the years and how you feel as though this is the person you are. She should accept this and prioritise your happiness over anything else.

If she loves you, she will stay with you no matter what. Someone who loves you will remain by your side no matter what you are or look like.