I've just come to terms with being transgender. How do I come out to my girlfriend of many years?

Since I don't know you or your girlfriend personally, I can't say for sure the best way to go about it. If I could make a suggestion on leading up to it, I'd say talk to her a bit about someone trans* in the media and see how she reacts. Make sure she understands that you have not been hiding this from her, and that you're telling her this because you want to be honest with her and yourself.

Coming out is a difficult process, and each person chooses to do it in their own way. The only general guideline is that the discussion surrounding it is heartfelt - be honest with yourself and with your partner about your feelings.

Well speaking the truth out is the best way to express your feelings if you tell her out how much she means to you and how much you have affection for her she'll never accept to leave you everybody in the world has its right to live their lives!

Sit down and express how you've been feeling about your gender and how transitioning will make you feel. If you are unsure of how your partner will react try and test the waters like mentioning something in the media to do with transgender people or watch a program with a trans person to find out their views on this topic. Be pacient as this is also a lot to get your head around

This can be very hard. While I am not trans, but am NB, this is how I did it: I waited for it to be brought up in conversation and then I said "Hey, that's me, I'm Nonbinary!"

First you have to make sure you are in a stable relationship, meaning she is feeling secure with you and you are feeling secure with her. Then, try to understand her point of view, and begin the idea by saying something like "I really do care about you and love you, but there is something I need to express to you about myself that might have not been so easy for you to see about me, … ". When you put it like this you kind of make them feel safer in exploring you and getting their curiosity up. It might be a shock to them at first, but over time, and caring they could literally learn to re-explore the real you, not the illusion they thought they saw.

It may seem complicated right now and it may be difficult to get your head around talking about the subject but it's very important that she is aware to ensure that you feel validated as the gender you are transitioning to. You could perhaps try explaining this to her and ask her if she has any other questions about it but despite the gender you identify as you are still YOU and you deserve to be loved and accepted for who you are as a person :) hope this helps a little

Your relationship has lasted many years and this is not easy task, you have love and understanding or you would not have lasted this long. Trust in the love your partner has for you not only as a lover but as a best friend. Trust in your bond.

Personally, id just straight up tell her. If she truly loves you, she won't care what your gender is.

It is probably best to be honest. If she does love you she will support you. She may not be especially excited and it will be overwhelming but you should just be honest.