I've just come to terms with being transgender. How do I come out to my girlfriend of many years?

Well talk about would she thinks about transgenders and and from there see what she thinks and then tell her about who you are and hopefully she'll be supportive

I have personal experience with this and I found that it's best to have an honest talk with her. You have been with them for many years so they should be willing to hear you out. My girlfriend took it quite well and although we are no longer together it was a very rewarding experience. It can take time because it's like telling someone you are different to what they thought, they have to get used to it and at times it will be hard. She might struggle with your pronouns, your name etc. But it can work out and now you understand yourself it is only fair to share that with your significant other.

This is no small task to be sure. Gender dysphoria is bound to have an effect on all relationships, sometimes good and sometimes not. Positive language is the best route in revealing anything about yourself and this is a positive thing. Frame this in a way of feeling finally like you understand yourself. There are thankfully now so many resources available that may not have been even only ten years ago. If you are comfortable doing so, offer to answer any questions your partner may have. Relationships are always work and they always require communication, no matter what changes life brings.

It's completely normal to be nervous about such a thing. If your girlfriend loves you and if she cares about you, it won't make a lot of a difference whether you are transgender or not. Her love won't change. If she judges you and leaves you because of that, just think of it as if you got rid of a bad person and be grateful that she left. But if she truly deserves and loves you that will never happen.

Take it slow - only come out if you feel 100% comfortable with it. There's nothing wrong about being trans*. Maybe talk to her, try to explain everything - how you feel, what your plans are and mostly about your relationship with her. And most important: Be proud of yourself and who you are. You can do this!

Before you begin to come out, you must approach your gf first that she should understand you no matter what, just spoke to her with honest and a sincere heart, Then you will see everything will follows. :) I hope your GF will understand you, I know she will. yes, she will be shock or hurt, but she will understand you I know.

If I have just come to the realization that I am transgender, I would build courage to tell her in a completely honest way when I am comfortable with myself so I can answer questions. I know that if we are in a good relationship she will stay with me.

I can give some perspective from the other side. My boyfriend of many years told me about him questioning his gender, probably transgender (mtf), year ago. He didn't come out to anyone else yet(hence I keep male pronounce), only I and this therapist know about this. In that year I tried to support him as much as I can and know how. At home with me, is the only place and time when he is himself. Our relationship is much stronger as we are more open about many things. So, when you feel comfortable an confident enough just tell her. If you've been together for long time, she might even suspect it. Just spent some quality time together and maybe ask her to not interrupt you and just hear you out and tell her.

Sit her down and be completely transparent and open with her, know it will be hard for her but if she truly loves you she will help you through it

Be honest and tell her that you need time to explore your gender identity. She may be upset but remember that this is the best for you and her.