I've just come to terms with being transgender. How do I come out to my girlfriend of many years?

You tell her like she is a child that needs to learn her alphabet, but instead of the alphabet you tell her everything she needs to know about being transgender. She will accept you because she loves you.

She fell in love with your personality, not your body. You will still be the same person inside, only now happier because you don't have to hide who you really are.

It doesn't matter what gender someone is, and it does not change who you are. If your girlfriend loves you, she will accept you for who you are, and embrace who you are! Do whatever you need to do to be happy, because at the end of the day, that is the LEAST that you deserve. Be strong, be proud, and love yourself. I have every confidence that things will work out, and the fact that you and your girlfriend have been together for many years leads me to believe that she'll be just as loving and accepting as she has always been. Best of luck! And if you ever need me, you know where to find me :)

Just saying it directly is usually the best option. She might be upset depending on the kind of person she is, so be absolutely sure you have accepted yourself for who you are.

Just simply state it. If she is not accepting, explain it to her in a mature manner. The key is to not get angry, because anger just leads to more anger. Be mature, be accepting, be considerate, as well as try and influence her opinion and better understanding of who you are. But most of all, be mature and don't get angry- otherwise she may get angry.

In a quiet safe environment, while maintaining a calm attitude. It's important to have compassion, and understand what it would be like in her shoes. And, if she truly loves you, she will accept you for who you are.

Being transgender myself, I know it is hard to come out, its one of the hardest things to do and especially to somebody as important to you as your girlfriend. The most important thing is your own happiness and if you feel you need to come out to be authentically you then that's what you must do. At the end of the day, if she is your girlfriend then she will love you, and with love it means she should support you in your life. You should tell her how you feel and what you plan on doing regarding transition. If she does not accept you for who you are then you should aim to educate her on your feelings.

Sit her down and tell her "I have been feeling this way for a long time and I would like to talk with you about it. I am FtM Trans or MtF Trans, meaning I feel trapped in the wrong body"

Coming out can be a nerve wracking experience. But remember that if you have been together for many years that your girlfriend likes you for you. Coming to terms with being transgender doesn't mean you are a different person, you are the same and you've just come to learn yourself better. Explain this to her, that is important. The better you explain, the easier it will be for her to understand what you have been dealing with.

First it's great you are being honest with yourself! But now it's time to be honest with her. She may react bad at first but if she really loves you she will come around. It's a big process! It all starts with being honest and confident!