I've just come to terms with being transgender. How do I come out to my girlfriend of many years?

This could be considered naivety but when you have known someone for so long, you tend to pickup on the little things done by the person, their thoughts and feelings and habits. You might have expressed you were questioning your identity to her before or maybe you hadn't. But usually people do pick up that something is up and who knows you telling her that you are trans would not come as a surprise or maybe it will. There is no wrong or right way of coming out to a loved one. You come out when you're ready, in your own terms and not because you're pressured. All that matters is that you are comfortable with yourself and who you are. I have faith in you. I wish you good luck! I hope that her love and support only grows because coming out to someone takes a lot of strength and you are truly strong, my friend.

First, only tell her if it is safe. Thats always the first piorty. Then, it can go something like this : after you sit her down Honey. I have something to tell you. I have been wanting to tell you for a while, but I wanted to wait until I was sure, and until I got it completely figured out for myself. The time has come, and I'm afriad. I'm afraid because you could be sad, angry, disappointed or even disgusted. And I love you so much, and I dont want to change things. But I need to start living as myself, for me and for you. So. I am transgender. How do you feel about that?

You are already done with the hardest part, I hope you celebrated that :) coming to terms with something that gives you trouble is no easy task and can be quite challenging. Just be yourself, you know your girlfriend best and how to approach her in delicate situations. Did you ever deliver big news like this where you weren't sure how she would react? You can also think of how you would like to receive such news yourself. How would you like the other person to approach? That might help you on the delivery as well. All the best luck in the world to you! :)

Wanting to come out takes a lot of courage and I admire that you've chosen to tell her. When I came out to my parents I simply told them how I felt, I think it might also help her relate if you tell her how it makes you feel in general, maybe that you feel alone with it if you haven't told anyone else yet or that you're afraid of what might await you. Sometimes it can take a bit of time for others to understand but if they care about you and you about them then you will be able to communicate in productive ways about it. I wish you good luck, with coming out and your journey! One thing that might help too is including her in what you plan as further steps and making sure she's up to date. :)

you can start by telling her that for a while you have noticed that you are starting to feel different, both inside and out, that you are discovering new sensations and that since you trust her and you know she loves you for what you are inside and not for the external aspect you are sure that it will accept you in any version of you. Or at least it should. Tell her that she is free to choose and take some time to think, remind her of the beautiful moments and tell her that you love her. It'll be fine.

Being honest is something everyone seems to be afraid of, but just think about how much better you are going to feel. Love is unconditional if she loves you unconditional, should have no worries. It was hard for someone close to me who went threw a similar situtation. She didn't like it and it didn't feel right to her but they loved each other so much and wanted each other to be happy. We all are best friends and we wouldn't want it any other way. Just be happy and worry free. I sure wish you the best of luck.

This is a very delicate process that must be taken slowly and carefully. The best thing to do is to find a quiet, comfortable place where both of you can speak without being interrupted. Approach this matter calmly and softly, but be honest and direct. Explain to her how you feel, and why you feel this way. But remember, the person who has found this the hardest to deal with has been yourself! Hopefully your girlfriend will understand this. And although this conversation is best to be done in person, many people may find this uncomfortable. A handwritten letter, or email may be the way to go if you find speaking face to face too difficult

Be honest. If you two have been together for many years, and have built a relationship based on trust and honesty, it is good to be straightforward and honest so that she can meet your needs and help you get to where you want to be. If she doesn't take it well, she may come to terms with it in time, or you may need to work out the terms of your relationship. Express to her your feelings about yourself and who you want to be. Getting it off your chest might help you with the initial, daunting stress of telling her. Just be honest and go from there.

It's good to hear that you have come to terms with this, I can imagine it was a long journey - you should be really proud for being able to accept yourself! This is the most important thing; what other people think shouldn't matter as much. I do understand though that coming out to your girlfriend will probably be really scary. It is up to you how and when you tell her, but my advice would be to pick a time when she isn't stressed and can have a while to process this information. Try to be really open and honest with her also! I really do hope that she is understanding and supportive. She will probably want to talk about 'what will happen next.' Please do support her too!

I would like to start this off by congratulating you! It can be really hard to accept ourselves, and love ourselves as we are. I am really proud that you are able to do that. This one is a tough situation I bet for you. I'm sure after all this time you are close with her, and you might be scared to worry her. It is important to remember the longer you keep it going the more she might be shocked by it. You just need to be honest with her, try to tell her it's not her fault, it's just who you are! Hopefully she will accept you for you, and maybe even keep your Relationship together! You never know! Hopefully this could help you!