I've been in a secret relationship for 8 years! My partner is finally divorced n her children are 25 and 22. She says she is afraid to live how she really feels. Do I stay?

It is hard to give you a straight answer because of how many unknown factors there are in this situation, but it sounds like there's a lot of potential for your relationship, but it's going to take a lot of work. If your partner isn't ready to be out, maybe find ways they'd be comfortable working up to coming out little by little - even if it's only little things at first like spending more time together publicly, getting introduced to their kids (even if only as a "friend" at first), etc. Whether or not you stay will entirely depend on how much work both of you are willing to put in. After 8 years, I would imagine this is a very serious relationship that could very well be worth fighting for, but it won't be worth anything if BOTH of you aren't willing to work hard to find the right relationship balance for the two of you. Come chat in the LGBTQ+ subcommunity if you want to. Lots of great people there who I'm sure would be willing to go into more detail with you about it.

If you love your partner, you should stay. It is important to sit down and have a conversation with your partner to figure out how they are feeling. If they are afraid, comfort them.