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Is staying in the closet forever a bad thing?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 8, 2014
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No, it's not a bad thing at all. It's your choice and if you wanna leave it like that, it's ok. In the end, being homosexual is a part of who we are so there's no need to be labeled as homosexual or heterosexual. You are just you, and your sexuality is personally your and noone else's business. In the end, noone goes around telling people they're heterosexuals, so it's the same in this case, you don't have to share your sexuality with others.
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Profile: Scrivener
Scrivener on Nov 12, 2014
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Yes, staying in the closet forever is a bad thing, but sometimes it's a necessary evil. Being in the closet involves lying, by omission or by practice, about who you are and what your desires are. It will injure your relationships with both friends and partners, and it will keep you in a constant state of concern of being found out. That being said, sometimes our life circumstances are such that the costs of coming out of the closet outweigh the benefits. If you are totally reliant on parents who are vigorously opposed, coming out can be difficult and fraught with pitfalls. Please feel free to reach out to me any time to talk about coming out or staying in the closet; I'm here to listen.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 16, 2014
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Staying in the closet forever can be a good thing or a bad thing, it really just depends on what the best option is for you. For some, it can be more safe and comfortable to stay in the closet, but for many others, it can feel isolating and depressing. I think there is no wrong choice when it comes to choosing how to live your life. For me personally, I am in the closet with some and open to others, it depends on when I feel the most safe and comfortable.
Profile: positiveWhisper24
positiveWhisper24 on Mar 15, 2015
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That depends on whether your being closeted comes at the expense of someone else. If you're closeted, and, for example, you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to, that can be damaging and painful to that person.
Profile: incredibleFlamingo52
incredibleFlamingo52 on Nov 15, 2014
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The closet is a place where you stay while you hide your true self from the rest of the world. Being inside it or outside it is completely a personal choice, so there is no date set to coming out. The bad thing about the closet is that it hurts you, as it tends to isolate from the people around you. While I recommend not staying there too much, it depends a lot on your personal situation. If you feel like your safety would be in danger , do not come out. If you feel like you are drowning in the shadows, try to come out to someone close to you, so they can at least bring inside a torch to help you see a little light.
Profile: palepixies
palepixies on Nov 18, 2014
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It's not a bad thing if that's what you feel is right. You should only come out if and when you are comfortable but you shouldn't feel pressured to either stay in or come out of the closet.
Profile: Gracey
Gracey on Nov 8, 2014
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No not at all, some people will choose never to come out of the closet, it is all down to personal choice and how you feel about things. Everyone is free to do whatever they like :)
Profile: originalLion57
originalLion57 on Jun 12, 2015
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Yes, because it will suppress you and when you suppress things, your subconscious will know that and it's toxic for your mental health and overall happiness. You will start feeling depressed, angry, upset, helpless and hopeless. It can damage you in so many ways and eventually your frustration will come out somehow. You cannot lie to yourself that way and keep things hidden, doing that to a natural part of you that there is nothing wrong with can hurt you so badly. And it will definitely not result in happiness or joy.
Profile: OliverC
OliverC on May 27, 2015
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Nope! It's all up to you. The "in the closet" thing is for people who feel stifled and suffocated with it. However, for plenty of people, their identity is their own private business that no one has any right to know. And that's perfectly fine!
Profile: carlojose
carlojose on Apr 29, 2015
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No. "Staying in the closet" or not coming out as any of the queer identities is not a bad thing. May it be forever or "late" choosing not to share your sexual orientation is NOT a bad thing. You are not obliged to present yourself to public for them to easily label you.
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