Is it ok to not want to come out right now?
ItsTheLittleThings95
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Oct 25, 2016
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It is 100% ok to not want to come out right now. The decision to come out is a very personal one and you shouldn't feel pressured to do so before you're ready. I'd say do it when you feel the time is right and when it will benefit you as an individual.
Anonymous
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Oct 31, 2016
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Yes, it is perfectly ok to want to wait to come out. It is very hard and you need to be ready. Take as much time as you need!
GaviAnsara
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Nov 1, 2016
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Overall, people can benefit from accepting themselves and who they understand themselves to be on their own terms. However, this does not necessarily mean that all people will be happy with the same degree of public disclosure about their sexuality, past or current gender identity, relationships, or bodies. 'Coming out' is not necessarily right for everyone. For some people, it is a transformative and inspiring experience. For some other people, it can feel invasive and exposing.
Although some therapists impose the idea that all people should 'come out', this is often simplistic and ignores people's religious and cultural diversity. Some people in cultural communities find it more useful to talk about 'coming in', especially in places where people are already tight-knit and feel they are not fully accepted in the dominant cutural community. Bringing other people into your life by sharing something you consider meaningful can increase closeness-- but it can also make you feel exposed. There is no 'one size fits all' advice that works for all people.
So yes, it is totally fine for you to be aware that you do not feel comfortable disclosing personal information about your sexuality, gender, relationship, or body. Think about WHY you do not feel comfortable: Are you surrounded by people who would not understand you if they knew? What are you worried will happen if you tell someone in your life? What are you worried could happen if you *don't* tell anyone? Are there specific people and situations you wish to avoid? Considering your specific fears and thoughts about disclosure will help you to sort through the different sources of your feelings.
Be wary of anyone who tells you there is only one right way to handle this situation. f you decide that what feels right for you is not coming out for the forseeable future, then try to bring people into your life who have shared that experience and who can support you in your decision. You get to explore and set boundaries on what you choose to share, when you choose to share it, in which way, and with whom. I wish you safe journeys as you explore what works for you.
Anonymous
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Nov 4, 2016
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It is your choice when or whether you come out, it is something deeply personal and you shouldn't be pressured into it. Wait till you are ready and prepared - this is far more beneficial than being forced out of the closet
SabrinaD2017
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Nov 5, 2016
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Yes! You can come out whenever you feel it's right. Even if you decide to never officially come out because you don't want a label on yourself, that's okay too. If you like someone, you like them. It is your choice if you want to come out with a label.
Missjay4
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Nov 11, 2016
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OF COURSE I have not came out yet and I worry about it somtimes but when the time is right you will be able to tell anyone who you love or care about
Anonymous
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Nov 12, 2016
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That is completely fine, lovely! You should come out only when you feel comfortable, and ready, and that is different for everybody. You don't ever have to come out if you don't want to, and should never feel like you have to be forced out. You are your own person, do what is right for you! Best of luck
emcast102
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Dec 5, 2016
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Of course it is. You should only come out when you feel comfortable doing so. If you want to wait then that is completely acceptable. Don't feel pressured in to doing so, do it when you and only you wants to
RainbowAtHeart
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Feb 13, 2017
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It's perfectly alright not to want to come out now,nor even ever. It's completely your choice, and affects you more than anyone else. If it's not safe, or just something you don't want to bother doing, there's no need to do it, and absolutely nothing wrong with not doing it
marquesBloodbrother
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May 8, 2017
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Of course! You will know when you want to come out and you are under no obligation to come out until you feel comfortable
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