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I'm most definitely in women and I think I'm a lesbian, however, sex doesn't interest me in the slightest. What's wrong with me?

Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Dec 26, 2017
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There's absolutely nothing wrong! If you don't have the slightest interest in sex, you're probably asexual. It's a just a sexual orientation like any other, nothing to worry about. Romantic and sexual attraction are not always connected: you can be attracted to a particular gender in a romantic way, and also appraciate them aesthetically, without feeling any sexual desire. You can call yourself an homoromantic asexual, if you want to identify with a label - but you don't necessarily have to label yourself if you don't feel comfortable with it. Just live your life and do what your heart tells you, keeping in mind that what you feel is perfectly alright.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 2, 2018
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If you don't experience sexual attraction at all, you may be asexual. Remember that there are many kinds of attraction and even if you don't feel the sexual kind, you can experience romantic or sensual attraction very differently. There's a lot of pansexual aromantic people - people who don't experience romantic attraction but feel attracted sexually to everyone, or demisexual homoromantic - experiencing romantic attraction towards the same gender but feeling sexual only when the bond with the other person is very strong. Also, a very important thing - remember that none of the attraction types cancel any other out. You can be gynoromantic non-binary bisexual or homoromantic heterosexual and there's nothing wrong with that!
Profile: Waterbear
Waterbear on Jun 14, 2015
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Nothing has to be wrong with you. You might just be an asexual person, or maybe the hormone thing just hasn't happened for you yet. Alternately, you could be depressed.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 22, 2015
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You could consider that the identity "asexual" could fit you. Asexuality is the absence of the desire to have sex with anyone; based on your question, this applies to you! There are many resources online, and a quick Google search of "asexuality" could give you much more information. As to how this fits into your identity as a lesbian, sexual and romantic interest are separate. So, someone could be a-sexual and homo-romantic. It is also possible to refer to yourself as an asexual lesbian, if that fits your experience, because of your romantic attraction to women.
Profile: Em
Em on Jun 23, 2015
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First of all, nothing is wrong with you. We are all humans of different shapes, sizes, and varieties, and not everyone wants or likes the same thing. If you're not interested in sex, maybe you're asexual (there are many varieties to asexuality): http://www.asexuality.org/home/?q=overview.html
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Anonymous on Nov 10, 2015
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nothing whatsoever is wrong with you. You may be homoromantic, and asexual. Ive found that romantic and sexual names are quite different in some perspective.
Profile: ceecil
ceecil on Jan 5, 2016
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there's nothing wrong with you at all! there is a difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction — what you're describing is most probably a lack of sexual attraction, but a presence of romantic attraction. the lack of sexual attraction is called asexuality. despite the stigma surrounding asexuality, it's perfectly natural and healthy and normal, just like any other sexual orientation. if you're attracted to women romantically, but not attracted to anyone sexually, you can call yourself a homoromantic asexual! of course, since you're exclusively attracted to women, you're still absolutely free to call yourself a lesbian. hope this helped! (you can also refer to www.asexuality.org for more info.)
Profile: Hellelujah
Hellelujah on Jan 26, 2016
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Sex is something that not everyone is into! You may be asexual. Someone who is asexual may not feel sexual attraction or have a sex drive. You may also be Homo-romantic, meaning you are romantically attracted to someone of the same sex, but you still don't feel any sexual attraction.
Profile: SilverStonexx
SilverStonexx on Jun 21, 2016
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You may be asexual, or demisexual. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. It may be considered the lack of a sexual orientation, or one of the variations thereof, alongside heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality. A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. Sexuality is not something that is black or white, there is a lot of gray area in between.
Profile: QuietlyBurningCandle
QuietlyBurningCandle on Nov 7, 2016
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That's completely normal! It sounds like you might have a sexuality on the asexual spectrum. You might be a homoromantic asexual, which means that you fall in love with women, but you are not interested in having sex with them. However, there are a lot of different terms on the asexual spectrum, so you might wanna look into that. It's important to remember that love and sex are two very different things, that don't necessarily have to be connected.
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