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If my partner is out of the closet and I'm not out yet, will this cause a lot of issues in our relationship?

Profile: 01sam01
01sam01 on Dec 20, 2016
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Hi! If you and you partner could talk about it, these issues may be prevented. Also, be wary of the issues that could arise if you get out when not ready, you deserve full control over your disclosure. Hope it foes well for you, happy holidays!
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 22, 2017
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It could, but often times it doesn't. It might cause a bit of tension, but likely won't ruin the relationship. If you haven't already, you should probably make sure you're both on the same page with who you're out to, and who you're comfortable coming out to
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 30, 2018
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There's an difference between secrecy and privacy. There might be some problems in the long run however for now depending on how they might feel there may not
Profile: wonderousBlossom7017
wonderousBlossom7017 on May 3, 2021
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It could, depending on your partners expectations of the relationship and if they don’t mind that you’re not out yet. For example if openly expressing pda is super important for them, or being able to tell others you’re together, it might be an issue. However, if they understand your reasons for not being out/ are willing to wait until you’re ready, it could not be an issue at all. You won’t know what are issues for them until you have a conversation about it. We all have such individual ideas of what a relationship should look like we never really know until we ask.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 28, 2015
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No, that won't, so long as they know. Being out of the closet is important in close relationships, or people might be lead down the wrong path.
Profile: EsaAnnMarie
EsaAnnMarie on Nov 1, 2015
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There will only be an issue if someone causes it to be. As long as you two are okay with it, then everyone else should be, not that anyone's opinion but you two's should factor into this relationship :)
Profile: Gemma8483
Gemma8483 on Feb 22, 2016
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Your partner may be a little bit upset. But so long as they understand you are not ashamed of them or your sexual orientation and you can talk about your reasons for not wanting to come out just yet, they should respect your decision, and if they love you they will stand by you. It might be hard when it comes to being in public etc. but if the relationship is worthwhile, you should be able to make it work.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 14, 2018
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Sometimes it could, just depending on surrounding friends and how you two feel about it. It can be hard to come out and these things take time. So talk it through with your partner, get to a mutual standpoint of when to come out (if you want to) and go from there. I'm sure they'll understand
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