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I identify as non-binary. Is it normal to still go by she/her pronouns just because that is what I am more comfortable with?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 19, 2017
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If you'd rather go by she/her, go for it! Gender identity is different for everyone and is all about finding the place that's more comfortable for you! And if you want to try things out and then decide they're not right for you, then that's fine! Come on down to the LGBTQ+ subcommunity if you want to chat more. There's plenty of cool people to chat with and, as a fellow nonbinary, I can say with full certainty that everyone is welcome regardless of situation.
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Profile: BeeboIsQueen
BeeboIsQueen on Oct 22, 2018
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You can use whatever pronouns you are comfortable with! You are used to being called she/her, so you are more used to it. Your pronouns do not make your identity as non-binary any less valid. Pronouns do not and will not ever define you, only you get to pick who you are and what you want to be. You can be proud of who you are and your identity, even with she/her pronouns. Just know that people who don't know you may assume you are something you are not, but their opinion should not be important in defining you. Your identity is valid, your pronouns are valid, you are valid.
Profile: Aayla
Aayla on Jul 30, 2019
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Sure! Your gender identity is all about how you feel about yourself. Some people prefer to express it in certain ways, including changing pronouns, like switching to "they" pronouns... But ultimately, it is all about your self-perception, not how you present yourself to the world. Anything is good as long as it makes you feel comfortable, and your identity is mot less valid because of this!
Profile: JustASammy19
JustASammy19 on Dec 23, 2017
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I also identify as non-binary and also go by she/her pronouns. I do so because I was raised with them, and feel like changing them would be a big hassle. I did, however, change my name. But she/her fit me often enough, so I'm not uncomfortable. I think that is the most important thing, to be comfortable. If you're comfortable being referred to with she/her pronouns while still identifying as non-binary than that is just that. When you stop feeling comfortable, try out something else. It's all fine.
Profile: Fictionchick1
Fictionchick1 on Nov 26, 2019
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What's normal is to go by whatever you feel comfortable with. the LGBTQ+ community is all about being true to who you are, right? So go by what you feel comfortable with, and don't worry about what other people think of you. If they're judging you by something you can't control, then you don't need them in your life. Please, no matter what, know that you are not alone. I know the feeling like you're alone in your own corner of the worlds and that no one understands, but there are so many people out there who are supportive and kind. All you have to do is find them.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 18, 2021
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Yes of course you can be nonbinary and go by she/her pronouns if that's what you're more comfortable with! I am nonbinary too and I go by she/they because that is what fits the best to me. Nonbinary is just not feeling completely like a girl or boy, you don't have to use they/them pronouns to count as nonbinary. The same goes with clothing, you don't have to look androgynous to identify as nonbinary, be as feminine or masculine as you want! If you feel more comfortable going by she/her that is completely okay! You are still nonbinary and super valid
Profile: PineSnowberry
PineSnowberry on Feb 23, 2021
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Of course! Sometimes switching pronouns can be uncomfortable at first and may not feel natural. Or, you could be non-binary with she/her pronouns. Your pronouns do not equal your gender. However, if you’re interested in they/them pronouns I would recommend asking some friends to help you test them out. I recently came out as gender fluid and using pronouns other than she/her felt weird at first. But as time went on and I adjusted to the new pronouns, I felt comfortable with them. And a mandatory reminder that you do not need to use they/them to be non-binary! Your gender is valid no matter what :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 1, 2021
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Thank you for sharing that with us here. Pronouns do not equal gender identity. So for an example, a cis person may use they / them because they may like it or it might suit them better. So yes, if you are a non binary person using she / her pronouns if that's what you are comfortable with, that is completely valid and okay! And very much normal too. Not every non binary person goes by they / them pronouns! You could also use two or more set of pronouns at the same time if you are exploring them. (:
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