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I don't know what my sexuality is. I sometimes like men, sometimes women other both but really often no one. What does that mean?

Profile: luminousPurple71
luminousPurple71 on Jul 31, 2017
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Grey asexuality is when you experience small amounts of romantic or sexual attraction. There is no "normal" form of sexuality. Hell, some people don't even use labels. Don't force a label that doesn't fit. Stay true to yourself. And p.s. this is something for you to come to terms with, it is nobody else's business
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Anonymous on Oct 31, 2017
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Well, from what I know from learning about the very broad spectrum of sexuality that is known to us, there is something called abrosexuality. This is when your sexuality and the people whom you're attracted to fluctuates and changes, with no real set one. It may be that. Or there is also the difference between romantic attraction and physical (sexual) attraction. So you may be attracted emotionally/romantically to some but not physically. This is just my answer of course, there could me many other possibilities. :)
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Aayla on Aug 13, 2019
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If you can potentially like men and women, you are bisexual. The fact that your attraction fluctuates and is not always fixed is normal, sexual attraction can be quite fluid. But if you can potentially like men and women, it doesn't matter if you don't always like both at the same time, or if sometimes you don't feel attraction at all: you are still bisexual, maybe with a lower sexual drive than others.
Profile: mickeysam
mickeysam on Aug 6, 2017
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Let me begin by saying: You are the best source of information on your own sexuality. That being said, the best label that I can think of is bisexual or biromantic asexual, but you get to make the decision as to what to label yourself.
Profile: SunlessSky
SunlessSky on Mar 27, 2018
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It could mean many things. Remember that sexuality is not always completely solid. It's fluid, it changes. I'm actually the same way as you, and personally I identify as bisexual. But it really is a matter of personal preference - what sounds best identity sounds most accurate for you. You'll get there, I promise.
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Raspberrycheesecake on Jun 13, 2018
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Your sexuality is just a label. Nowadays you can like who you like and thats that. If you are bisexual, thats great! Just like if you are fully gay or straight etc - thats great too! Don't feel like you have to use a label. Some people don't, if you do decide you want to use a label, make sure that it fits you.
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Arcencieleinhorn on Apr 26, 2021
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First of all, it does not mean that anything is wrong. You are valid no matter what your sexuality is and you don't even need to label yourself if you don't want to. When you feel like you are struggling with it and really want to know what your sexuality is maybe try to go back a step in your mind and just ask yourself why did I like this person. Maybe something is similar to every person you've liked and can help you figure out what your sexuality is. Remember to take your time, your sexuality is not the business of any other person and its your choice to understand what it means for you. It is not my place to tell you what it means especially as it is not my life.
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herbology on Jul 20, 2017
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It's really up to you to find out. But there's no rush in it! You still have your whole life to find out who you like, and whether you care what's in their pants. And there's also no need to put a label on it, if you like someone and it feels good, then there's really no need to tell yourself you're gay/bisexual/straight.
Profile: genuineTree90
genuineTree90 on Jul 26, 2017
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It's okay to feel confused, sexuality is something that spreads across a spectrum and there is no "right" or "wrong" when it comes to your sexuality! It can help to speak to friends and family about how you feel, and I've always found writing my thoughts down helps organise how I feel. All the best!
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Anonymous on Sep 4, 2017
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Sexuality is very fluid, many peeople have times when they feel attraction towards one gender and times when they feel ttraction towards the other. Don't label yourself and see where are your feelings headed to.
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