How to deal with falling in love for your best (and straight) friend?

This is a really difficult situation and one that always has a different answer because each situation is so unique. Keeping those feelings secret can really take a toll on your mental health, especially if the situation goes on for a long time. A common fear is that confessing these feelings will lead to your friend becoming more distant, or judging you or reacting badly. But if they are a true friend, (they might be shocked at first) but they would continue to support you and love you in a platonic way if you are happy to keep that friendship. Only you know you and your best friend best to make a decision on what to do. Wishing you all the best

This was difficult for me. The more i tried to ignore my feelings, the heavier the felt. It grew from a "butterfly feeling" to a stone in my stomach. Eventually I sat them down and opened up. I told them how long it's been a feeling for me. I told them how it was difficult to ignore it, how it was causing me pain to not address it. The listened, and were supportive. They didn't feel the same way about me, but that is not what mattered. They had noticed that i was drifting away from them, and thought they had done something wrong. They didn't want to bring it up with me, because they were worries it was something i was not comfortable speaking about. We never dated, but are still friends today.

This is such a tough thing to experience because not only are they straight they also happen to be your best friend. If it was just a crush, maybe (hopefully) it would go away eventually, but "falling in love" with them is harder, because you can't suddenly stop loving them. If you feel like they might not have a hugely negative reaction if they learnt about your feelings, it might be best to let them know. Accordingly, you two can sort out what the next best move for you is. Varies from case-to-case; maybe it's taking some time away from each other, for you to process your feelings and for them to process what they've just learnt about you. If you feel like they would have a negative reaction, it's best not to say anything. Since you've fallen in love with them, it's obvious that you care a lot about them. You could try your best to be there for them as a friend. But please remember that your feelings are important too and if the whole situation ever gets too overwhelming take some time to make yourself feel better.

We've all been there. You know it. I know it. Falling for someone who's straight is always tough. Especially if they're your best friend. I have experience dealing with falling for someone with a different sexuality. It's not always fun. But, ya know, maybe you could get them to make an exception *smirks* However, that's not super likely. Just as you would support queer people, it's important to support someone for being straight. If they're your best friend and don't share the same feelings for you, it's best to work on moving on. The relationship you two have is very special. Unless it's becoming damaging for you, try to keep that friendship and learn to find romantic love in others. Good luck, my love birds!

This can be a very confusing thing to experience. You go through a myriad of emotions and thoughts all at once - and it can be very stressful. But there are at least few things we can do to try and figure out what we are thinking. We can list literally anything we feel - writing down thoughts helps us gain clarity on a particular subject. The next step is trying to figure out WHY we feel a particular way. Then we can go about figuring out where we stand, and really observe ourselves minutely. Once we are sure what we feel, we might consider talking to that friend. This may seem daunting, but if that person is your best friend, there is a high chance that he/she/they will understand your situation. While doing all this, we must remember that this is a completely normal thing to feel and there is no need to feel any kind of guilt about it. Good day, guys :)

Falling for someone who you are not only closely bonded to, but who also does not share your sexual orientation, can be frustrating and confusing. If you know for a fact that you are not a member of their preferred sex, it is best to first acknowledge that a relationship is not feasible. Secondly, you should approach the situation in a way which best meets your needs as a person. If you have platonic love for them, and can cope with these feeling without verbalizing them or acting on them, then you can maintain the friendship. This route is also more manageable by opening up to another LGBTQIA+ member who can keep your feelings in confidentiality, and perhaps relate to you. Alternatively, if you feel that it is nearly unbearable to continue with these unspoken feelings while being so close with them, perhaps talking with them about your feelings and your need for distance would be helpful. Only do this if they can be trusted to not have a negative reaction.

If you know for sure that your friend is straight, and nothing can happen between the two of you then it is important to ask yourself what would happen if you did confront your friend about it, and how would that effect your relationship. Loving someone so much and not being able to express that is a difficult feeling to deal with but if your friend is straight, they could get a little freaked out or not care at all. Someone's reaction totally depends on that person. Sometimes it is necessary to give yourself a little space from that person if being around them is hurting you, because involving them more and more into your life might not be helpful. This is a really difficult topic, and it really just depends on the person you're in love with and what you're looking for out of the relationship.