How do you know if your bisexual?
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californiahockeygirl44
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Sep 30, 2017
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There isn't really a simple answer to that. Some people just know. For others, like myself, it is more of a journey. What I did that really helped me figure things out was trying on the different clothes and seeing what fit. But really that is just how I found out and what may work for you or what worked for others is just as valid!
Grackl3
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Oct 21, 2017
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Are you sexually attracted to people who identify as women? Are you sexually attracted to people who identify as men? if you answered yes to both then you are likely bisexual. If you are only //romantically// attracted to both you could be biromantic. If you dont know the difference: Sexual attraction is about the desire to have sex with that person. Its more about passion and physical attraction. (but is different from aesthetic attraction alone in which you think someone is pretty. if you think of "look but dont touch", aesthetic attraction is just looking, sexual attraction is the desire to touch) Romantic attraction is about wanting to commit to them and form an emotional bond. Its more about warm fuzzy feelings. Most people experience all of these towards the gender(s) they are attracted to. Some only one or the other. Youre valid with whatever combination you personally experience.
JayGrayson101
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Nov 10, 2017
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Bisexuality is when a person wouldn't mind dating a male or a female.. so if you don't mind falling in love with a male or a female, then I guess you are bisexual :)
Anonymous
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Nov 16, 2017
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Honestly, I think you should start by assessing your responses to different people. Just think about how you feel with certain people. Even just the fact that you are asking this question says that there is a possibility. Also, I, personally think there are a lot more bisexual people than we could possibly know.
readingDream88
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Nov 17, 2017
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If you're honest with yourself about who you're attracted to, then it's pretty easy to tell if you are or not! The best thing, in my experience, is to acknowledge how you feel instead of trying to deny it.
caligulamAquarius
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Nov 17, 2017
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You begin to expirience attraction towards the same sex, but you also feel a sexual attraction towards people of the opposite sex.
Potatofry
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Nov 17, 2017
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Ok so. I'm bisexual and I have thought of myself as bicurious and even straight for the longest time. I feel an attraction for guys and girls, which is a pretty standard definition for being bisexual. You need to evaluate whether you are bisexual or biromantic because there is a line being tied between those two identities. To put it crudely, to you want to perform sexual acts with people of both genders or are you simply forming romantic binds with both genders. Also please remember, you may prefer guys or girls more as a bisexual person. This does not make you 'straight' or 'gay' ( depending on what you identify as to begin with). Your identity IS valid.
CrimsonMoon46
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Nov 19, 2017
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If you find yourself attracted to people of multiple different genders, then you're probably bisexual.
Gwenyth
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Nov 22, 2017
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It may help to look at a few pictures of both genders and ask yourself if you would date them, kiss them, things like that. If you're answer is that you would, then you are bisexual. Doing that helped me figure out that I'm bisexual.
ppeachess
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Nov 23, 2017
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It took me a while to pin down what my sexuality is. Don't be afraid to take your time! If you are sexually attracted to both men and women, and/or all other genders, you may be bisexual. But don't feel obligated to limit yourself to one label if it doesn't feel right!
Anonymous
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Nov 29, 2017
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Most people spend the first few years of their life attracted to one gender, and as you get older if you feel yourself also feeling the same for the same gender then there could be a chance. get with someone of the same sex and if it feels right then its meant to be
Anonymous
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Dec 2, 2017
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Everyone learns about their sexuality differently. If you think you are bisexual, experiment. Go out with boys and girls. No one is truly fifty-fifty when it comes to being bisexual but just because you like one gender over the other doesn't mean you aren't bi. If the label of being bisexual confuses you or makes you feel like you have to be a certain person or act a certain way, don't identify with anything and just be you. Do whatever makes you happiest without worrying if that makes you straight, gay, or bisexual.
elsalovelove
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Dec 2, 2017
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Hi! I identify as bisexual. The meaning of bisexuality can vary from person to person, but the dictionary definition is feeling sexual or romantic attraction to both genders(male and female). However, bisexuality is not about liking both genders equally; some people just happens to prefer(for the lack of better wording) male over female, and vice versa. I personally prefer(again, WORDING)male and have only ever fallen for males, but I do feel attraction to females also.
Anonymous
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Dec 3, 2017
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I think that there isn't one way to tell. Honestly, one day you will just know - which sounds a bit annoying, but it's true. I think that the most that you can do for yourself if you're feeling confused is to imagine yourself in certain situations with both genders and try to tune into how you feel about those situations. You might not get an immediate "yes this feels right" or "no this feels wrong", but you most likely will have some kind of gut feeling which can help you gage certain aspects of your sexuality. Remember that sexuality is a spectrum, though, and although finding an identity that you can fit into may seem important, try to think of it as an ongoing process rather than something that you must know at this very moment.
Anonymous
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Dec 5, 2017
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ask yourself questions. Are you sexually interested in both girls and boys? What do you feel when you find somebody attractive? Is that just admiration or more? and keep in mind, being bisexual does not mean you have to be interested in girls and boys equally, you can like one gender better than another (sexually or romantically) but again, liking them both. So you are the only one who can see it.
Anonymous
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Dec 6, 2017
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You may not know what to call your sexual feelings or whether you feel sufficiently attracted to multiple genders to consider yourself bisexual. You don't have to rush and decide how to label yourself right now. Our sexual identities develop over time. How you see yourself is the key to a sexual identity.
tranquilSnowflake22
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Dec 20, 2017
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Figuring out your sexuality can be a hard thing. It took me four months and then after three months I realised I didn't fit that label. You know you're bisexual if you are attracted to two genders, these can be any not just male or female. It doesn't matter if you(for example) are only 10% attracted to males and 90% females you are still bisexual. In the end no one can make a decision for you it is up to you what you label yourself as but don't worry if you can't fine one that fits you.
Anonymous
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Dec 23, 2017
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Our society is really into labeling our sexuality. Sometimes this is helpful, and sometimes it can be really harmful and confusing. If it helps you to label yourself as straight, bi, lesbian, gay, etc., great! If it is makes it more confusing for you, then don't worry about it, don't think about it. The only person the label really matters for is you. If you are feeling attracted towards someone, that is okay and that is completely normal. Just because you have one slight attraction towards someone of the same sex doesn't mean you are bisexual, but it might. But in the end, it doesn't really matter again because the labels are irrelevant. If you are feeling drawn towards someone and want to try it, try it. It's okay! I know this is a confusing place to be. I've been there. I am there. Keep hanging on and find people who will support you. You got this!
Anonymous
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Dec 31, 2017
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Look at it with an open mind. Do you feel the same way about one gender as you do the other one? You can still have a preference one way or the other, but if overall you do feel attraction to either one, then you could definitely be bisexual!
Anonymous
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Jan 6, 2018
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You know you're bisexual when you've felt sexually attracted to both men and women in the same way. However, it does not necessarily have to be the same number for each-it's entirely reasonable for you to be interested in women 90% of the time and men the other 10% (or the other way around). The only criteria is that you must have felt attraction to both.
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