How do you know if your bisexual?
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Updated: Aug 2, 2020
kindheartedHeart95
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Jan 20, 2019
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I to am Bisexual I didn't truly know until I was about 15 although I knew before that I wasn't straight. I think often its something when you just know. I knew I liked girls mostly but then I also knew I wouldn't rule out a straight relationship so thats how I knew I was Bi. I think often theses things out them self out its a really confusing time when you are questioning your sexuality and I think sometimes it can feel very difficult but it ultimately doesnt how much time it takes to work things out and there will always be support some where and remember we are always here if you need us.
CaptainObviouslyOblivious
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Feb 10, 2019
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Ultimately, there's no way to answer this because it's a personal connection you have to make for yourself. It's absolutely normal to be be bi-curious, or even bi-flexible, but don't put limitations on yourself to exploring exactly who you are. Bisexuality is a wonderful thing, and although the gay community can seem a little judgmental, just remember that what is important is YOUR journey, not their perspective. If you feel the inclination, explore. If you don't want to, you don't have to. Just enjoy your time and space understanding and appreciating yourself. Remember that going with the 7cups theme, you cannot pour with an empty cup - so take time for yourself too. :)
creativeEyes54
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Feb 13, 2019
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Personally, when I was younger (about 12) I thought I was bi, and then in middle school I thought i was a lesbian, but now I know i’m nonbinary and bi. There are a lot of factors that go into attraction, so if you see yourself being happy and married to any gender, if you see yourself dating/haveing a romantic relationship with someone of any gender, then you are likely bi. Of course there’s internal struggles that may affect those feelings (trauma, dysphoria, internalized misogyny, etc.) but if you change your mind and realize that you are not bi, that’s okay, you deserve to be happy either way!
Ashes2Ashes1984
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Mar 3, 2019
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I am bisexual, i become aware of my sexuality with acknowledging my attraction toward man and woman. I equally love both man and woman. I would advice finding stronger advocates online and read their stories and read on bisexuality. I went through a self-discovery phase of gathering and finally letting go of the denial. I had to have a greater understanding of the sexuality to be able to have a sense of belonging to the community. The old saying of 'knowledge is power' can be true with this sense especially in our modern times of being virtual connected at our fingertips. I will end with just be honest with yourself. youmatter.
adaptableField9611
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Mar 16, 2019
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Labels are a way for humans to cope with the unknown, but they should never define our whole being. That said, bisexuality could be defined as a physical or romantic attraction to either gender. It is kind of a broad term. A person can have a preference for one gender over another, but that still falls under bisexual. This can be a sexual attraction, but I believe that someone can be asexual and bisexual. What I mean is it can include a desire to build a bond, with either gender, that goes beyond friendship or familial love. At least that is my take.
GentleLlama
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Mar 30, 2019
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Bisexuality is very common! Sometimes people of one gender can be attracted to boys and girls. Sometimes for people it doesnt matter the genitalia, it just matters the personality. If you think you might like both you very possibly could. A lot of people figure it out early on, but a lot of people also take years to actually figure out what exactly they like in a person. That could be a male or a female! Only you really know how you're feeling on the inside! Trust your gut feelings! Love is love and know that you are not alone!
7mugsofcoffeee
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Apr 7, 2019
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First of all, a bisexual DOES NOT have to be someone who is attracted to men and women equally, or even just men and women. In general, the label bisexual describes someone attracted to more than one gender, and people outside of their gender. So, if you find yourself getting a non-platonic attraction to multiple genders, it is likely you are bisexual or pansexual. Hope that helps. Remember, even if the people in your outside life don't accept this, and it would be unsafe for you to come out, there is a huge community online of like-minded people and allies who will support and love you no matter what.
slytherinstarling123
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Apr 13, 2019
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Sexuality is about experimenting and getting to know yourself. Don't feel to label yourself straight away, just reflect and consider the people you could like and be attracted to. Don't try to confine or force yourself into a box, just like whoever you like, date whoever you want to date, and from that eventually with growth and discovering more about yourself you may find a label that fits well. If you find yourself being attracted to people regardless of gender, then you may well find that bisexual is a label you're comfortable with and fits you, and that's completely okay
Anonymous
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May 1, 2019
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The most importatnt thing is to remember that you don't need to label yourself or figure it out immediately. On the other hand it is understandable that you want to be sure. A good sign that you are bi is that you tend to focus on the same gender. For example, if you find yourself looking more at the same-gender-as-you person in a couple on a street, that may be a sign! Or yes, even if you are watching porn. But of course, we are talking about bisexuality, which means being attracted to both girls and boys. And how do you know, when you're not sure if your crushes mean either homo/hetero or bi orientation? Just relax. Take your time. You really dont need to be sure if you're bi, pan, poly, homo, hetero, ace or anything else right now. If you dont know, how to respond to a question about your sexuality, why dont you just use the term queer? I personally identify as queer, and right now I dont need to know what exactly "am I".
mysteriousDreamer25
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May 11, 2019
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well coming from a bisexual person i may be able to help. when i started questioning if i was bisexual i started noticing i had small crushes on my friends of the same gender, like wanting to hug them constantly, always wanting to be close to them, or simply just wanting to be their partner. i always knew i like opposite gender so that was never a problem for me. you really just have to dig down and think. would i date the same gender? am i attracted to them? do i see a few with them? it may take a while to figure out but i hope this helps you in even a small wayâ¤ï¸
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