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How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm transgender?

Profile: Grangs
Grangs on Aug 14, 2016
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You sit him down and tell him exactly about it and explain that you are a man/woman. It will only hurt you in the long run if you don't.
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Anonymous on Apr 20, 2017
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There is no right or wrong way to come out to someone close to you, but I believe that honesty is the best weapon. The best way is to be honest and tell your feelings exactly as they are, and explain your situation. Sadly, it's almost impossible to predict what the reaction will be. It could be positive, and also negative. However, you shouldn't be scared, as the most important thing is to stay true to yourself. If your partner does not accept you the way you are, then, to me, it means that they don't really deserve you. It's better to be alone but be yourself, than feeling forced to be something you're not for the sake of someone else, no matter how much you love them. If they are not ready to make that sacrifice, then you shouldn't either.
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Anonymous on Jul 30, 2016
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It's important for people of your sexuality, inform that person you plan on dating before hand. Who knows how he will react now, how he would feel, and what he would do. I think you should just be straight forward and tell him.
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Anonymous on Sep 2, 2016
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Being in a honest relationship is the best. If he loves you, he would respect your choices in your life. If he is taking it hard, give him time. This would come off shocking to him, but he should respect you. If he breaks up with you, he would be judgemental, no? This would be a test of respect, and personal space. Good luck.
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Aayla on Oct 26, 2019
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You can choose a moment when you're both feeling good and you are unlikely to get distracted or interrupted. Then, you can tell him how and why you started questioning, what you felt, what you still feel now. You can try to explain him what it means to tell like you, what you need to be happy. Make sure he knows you'll be there to answer any question and help him understand. It's surely not gonna be easy, but nobody knows how it will go, you mustn't lose hope!
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adoredIcicle46 on Aug 5, 2016
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If he likes you for who you are and not your body than he would stay but if he leaves he never truly loved you. You can tell your partner you are trans whenever you are. Just keep in mind that if he loved you he would stay and if he didn't he would leave.
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CaylenGurlii on Aug 18, 2016
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Simple, just tell him that you feel more like a different gender. I know it seems scary, but the only way that I really recommend is to just be very straight forward and tell him that you are transgender. And if he doesn't support your choice, he was never the one in the first place, sweetheart. So I believe you should just tell him very bluntly that you are. If he really loves you he will accept you for who you are.
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caffeinatednightmare13 on Aug 25, 2016
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Find out his views on general about the trams community and see if you're safe to come out. And then ease into it. Explain over a nice cup of tea and tell him straight up. Do not procrastinate
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Anonymous on Aug 9, 2017
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I don't know your boyfriend so I can't tell you how to tell him but what I can tell you is to just be honest. I know it's scary but you know that if he's really someone you want to be around then he'd accept you no matter what. He might be surprised even if he doesn't mind so just give him space and know that you did the right thing no matter the outcome.
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EmilyofMelbourne on Mar 14, 2018
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Hopefully, you will have had the chance to discuss things around this topic earlier. If not, maybe watch a movie on the topic or go to a comedy night with a queer performer. These might allow you to enter into the conversation with him and glean his reaction. Then, or at another point in time, you just need to say it, "I don't feel like a girl." You may want to say what you do feel like but you may just be exploring this yourself and there is no need to label yourself. Your identity can emerge. Your boyfriend will want to process the new information and it might have implications for your relationship. How does he feel about not being in a heterosexual relationship? How do you feel about having a boyfriend? With love and an open heart, these questions and more will be addressed. Good luck! Self-discovery is often challenging but also very rewarding. Seeking circles of friends in social or help groups going through the similar experiences can be very helpful. Best Wishes!
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