How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm transgender?

I think the hardest part about being trans was opening up to my partner and letting them know that I needed to physically transition. I had so much shame inside me about it, I'd kept it in for so long and convinced myself that I was crazy or abnormal, or that my whole world would collapse if I said those words. I guess I had to do two things, both say I was trans, and let my partner know that I needed to physically transition. In the end, I just related it to something I did - I said you know when I do ______, well it's a bit deeper than that. I've struggled with this for years, but I'm struggling to keep it in any more, I'm actually trans and I need to physically transition. That kind of opened the door to it, and a lot of feelings that I'd kept hidden. It was a relief to be honest at last, and to work as a team to help manage things together.

It might seem scary, but being upfront and honest is important in this situation. Sit him down, face-to-face (if possible), and explain as best as you can. Prepare yourself for a line of questioning, either out of curiosity and try to maintain your composure (though it's hard in emotional situations such as this). Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst, if he is not accepting, you do not need him. Also, what helped me to come out was talking to friends that knew of my situation. They supported me unconditionally and I believe this would help you a lot as well.

It's best you do it in person, and in public. Understand that no matter what he says, you'll have to accept it. I'm a trans guy and I understand how hard that conversation can be. When it comes down to it however, you need to hope for the best and then prepare for the worst. If he does end up breaking up with you, please know that you have people here to support you, and you can always reach out to me or another listener here as well. I hope it all ends up okay for you, best of luck!

I told my ex by first just slipping how he felt about transgender people as a whole into a conversation. It helped me to establish first of all whether he was transphobic or an ally. That is probably an important step to take because otherwise you could come out to find he is a transphobe, which could be damaging. Then I began to subtly ask about how fluid his sexuality was e.g. how he felt about dating enbies, masc females, femme males, and finally, transgender individuals. Knowing how fluid he is with the gender identities of his partners allowed me to assess the probability of him staying with me and reacting positively to me coming out. Then, finally, come out in a nice and quiet area where it's just you and him and where he has the option to go and leave to think about it and fully understand the gravity of what you have just told him. Don't be offended if he wants time alone, it's natural he will be potentially shocked by this information and will want to think it through. Good luck!

I dont have too much experience with things like this but always make sure that you have a safe place to stay. Try to tell him how you feel and have him walk in your shoes but also walk in his and try to understand what he is feeling. remember to talk about how your relationship will continue afterwards. Remember that this is a serious topic and he may need some time to process but also make sure to talk to someone about how you're feeling during this time. Confide in people who love and care about you as well

First off, congratulations on being yourself and who you want to be. It is so admirable. In my opinion, your boyfriend does deserve to know this, so I am glad you are inquiring about telling him. My suggestion would be to tell him you love him, want to have a serious discussion, and need to tell him something important. Then, I would just come out and say it. Rip the bandaid off! If he is the one for you, he will not judge you. In fact, he should love you even more than he already does. Being trans is a part of you and there is nothing wrong with that. Stay strong and good luck!!!!! If he loves you, he won't think of this revelation as a bad thing. Sending light :)

Try telling him that you want to be honest with him about who you are. If he loves you he’ll accept you for who you are on the inside. Also try telling him that I am who I am on the inside also on the outside. If he doesn’t appreciate you for who you are then he doesn’t deserve you, and you can make the choice of leaving him. Remember at the ends of the day it’s always up to you. And you are perfect the way you are. And someone will appreciate you for you one day.

You should explain it to him simply. Tell him how you feel of course... About your relationship and then break it to him as you reasure him that nothing will change. However even as you do this know in your mind that there is a chance he may break up with you and don't feel guilty about it it's no your fault, people just interpret things differently . This is just how many people are, it's really hard to love someone else despite their flaws but it's just how most of us have been raised or how we react to stuff etc. The big secret is to know that your boyfriend should love you in the shape, race, size, gender and form that you come in and that should never change, if he finds it fit to change it he simply does not care for you in any way whatsoever which is very okay, some things are better off left alone than to proceed with him and he does not love you. In the end love conquers all, at least I hope.

This can be a very big thing. Although I cannot relate, i have dealt with things like this before. I also know this too. The best thing you can do is tell him that you are transgender, and see how it goes. If he truly loves you, he will accept it. Some people may really like a lot, but they just can't deal with someone originally being the same gender. some may consider it transphobic. and it could be if you take it out context. but it isnt really. its just personal opinions. If you have to tell your partner you are transgender, go for the shot! its going to be okay and even if they don't like it, you will find someone else who values you for who you are. Not who you were born as.

As for how to tell your partner, well, that's a very personal decision. You can catch them off guard, or you can plan the whole thing out perfectly. Whatever you do decide, I recommend that you use a scientific explanation to explain your transsexuality. Tell them that you have gender dysphoria, and explain what it is and why you needed to take the steps to feel right in your body. Stay calm, and get ready to answer a lot of questions. Do not get defensive and try to respect the fact that they might have some tough questions and could become confused or angry. Just be positive and open.