How do I deal with having to hide my girlfriend from my parents? It's wrong, but I'd rather not be disowned by the two people in my life that mean the most to me.

You will feel a lot of conflicting emotions and the need to pick sides when you have to keep your relationship a secret. Eventually, your secret will come out in the open or you will end the relationship. Think about which option is favourable for you. If you would simply like to enjoy the relationship while it lasts, despite knowing that it has an expiry date to it, keep loads of precautions and excuses ready. I was in the same situation twice, and we broke up because I could not handle the guilt of keeping such a huge secret from my parents. I rationalized at first, telling myself that I can make my own decisions, but eventually we realise that life is much easier when single.

This is a tough question. On one hand, you have your girlfriend who you care about, and on the other hand, you have your parents who mean the most to you. I'm assuming you have already tried to discuss the topic in general with your parents. If not, why not? What is the worst that could happen? How likely is that result to happen? What are the benefits to having a girlfriend and not telling your parents versus telling your parents? Would they really disown you? If you are in a situation where you are able to support yourself on your own, then that will change your options. I would suggest discussing this with your girlfriend and/or a trusted friend or relative.

If you and your parents are that close, then there is surely a way to discuss the aspects of your life they may not completely understand. Having a same-sex relationship can be scary, but you are the same person regardless of whether you are dating somebody of the same or opposite sex.

it is your choice whether you want to hide or not. if you want people to know about it that aren't your parents, you could start small like with your friends, then maybe siblings, relatives, tell them to keep it a secret because you either want to tell them yourself, or not tell them at all. maybe it is best if you wait until you are 18, that way you will most likely be on your own. i can't say if you two will be together then, but whatever the case, you won't be so pressured by telling your parents since you are a young adult and make your own choices.

Wait until you are ready. There is absolutely no pressure to do anything. Focus on yourself before realizing what you want to do.

It's okay to be afraid of your parents. It happens. You need to think well and maybe tell them to feel happier with your gf

It's ok to do whatever makes you feel safe, there's nothing to be guilty about! For now, you can tell your parents that she's your friend or pretend that you're going out with your friends. Having to hide is hard, but you can still find your spaces of freedom. The key is to enjoy every moment you have together the best you can, focusing on improving your relationship, so that even if you hide for now, your relationship will still give you more joy than discomfort. As long as the happiness you share is greater than the discomfort of having to hide, you'll be fine! Just make sure to talk about it with her and let them know that she means a lot to you and your decision to hide isn't because she's not important for you, but simply because you just don't feel ready to let your family know the real you.