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How do I come out to my parents?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 11, 2016
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Call a family meeting, and go over it with them. Explain to them in your own words that even if you like people your parents do not 'approve' of, this doesn't change who you are as a person, just who their future 'in-law' will be.
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Profile: SS2016
SS2016 on May 17, 2016
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Just sit them down and be calm during the time. They will be maybe shocked or angry for a while but I assure you that they'll come around. They love you for who you are but you've got to guve them time to get used to the newly provided information.
Profile: Probius
Probius on May 18, 2016
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Tell your parents that there is something you want to tell them, and that you would like to sit down and talk. Take your time, there is no need to rush yourself. Tell them that you are still the same person, and that you just want them to understand this aspect of your personality. Good luck.
Profile: sanddunes81
sanddunes81 on May 18, 2016
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I came out to my parents in two ways. The first was by writing them a letter and leaving it somewhere they could find it and read it whilst I was away on a trip with friends. The second was when I decided I needed to talk to them face to face. My best friend was there with me and that really helped. We never really know what their response will be but at least you will have done your part in opening up a space for both sides to explore one of the many aspects of your self that they had not known before. That's a bold step to take.
Profile: ArcticRapids
ArcticRapids on May 18, 2016
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When I came out to my mother, I sat down with her and told her... Just getting it off my chest brightened my world.
Profile: JasonT
JasonT on May 19, 2016
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There are many ways you can come out. First of all, you need to establish if it's safe. Do you have somewhere to go if they react badly? One of the ways you can do it is sit them down and tell them you need to talk. Turn off all distractions such as your TV. Explain to them that what you're about to say is important to you and you're not sure how they're going to react. Take a moment to breathe. This is going to be scary. Start by telling them straight up. "Mum, dad I'm _____". Go into detail about how you're feeling. The next way is a letter. Address the letter to your parents. "Dear Mum and Dad." then go into detail, start to explain why you're writing to them rather than saying it to their face. Once you've explained, it's time to write about your sexuality/gender. Say what you are and explain what that means. The mroe detail the more they'll understand. Personally, I came out in a Facebook message as Pansexual. I explained that it was too hard to say it to my mum's face, then went on to say I'm Pansexual. I explained what it means and how i feel. When I came out for the second time, I came out as transgender. I didn't even message my mum personally about this. I simply wrote a Facebook status. I don't recommend this way as it can come as a shock. Explain that it's extremely hard to be writing this, but you're fed up of hiding who you are. Go into detail about your sexuality/gender and say what it means to you. NEVER COME OUT IF IT IS UNSAFE!!!!
Profile: amiableEyes21
amiableEyes21 on May 19, 2016
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If your parents aren't homophobic, I would just tell them. I spent a lot of time trying to find a good way to tell them, but they were all too extreme for me, so I would just tell them.
Profile: lovinglife99
lovinglife99 on May 20, 2016
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It's often difficult to come out to your parents about things like your sexualitly. just believe that they love you and accept you
Profile: Thistooshallpass46
Thistooshallpass46 on May 20, 2016
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First of all you need to make sure that you are 100% ready and are safe if anything goes bad. It is probably best to get them alone in a room (not just blurt it out in the shops/a public place) because it may take them a bit of time to process it. Then when you say it just say what your heart is telling you to say :)
Profile: Awesomebroman18
Awesomebroman18 on May 21, 2016
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Just say that the decision and feelings you have are uncontrollable and you are happy with being you
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