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How do I come out to my parents?

Profile: graysonlilac
graysonlilac on Jun 3, 2017
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Start by telling them how you are feeling right now. Tell them about how your significant other make you feel and how much they mean to you. If they're not familiar with sexuality, educate them by doing research and present your findings. If they're not ready to accept it, give them some time and space, but let them know that you're still there and cares about them, as well as how they feel about you. Understand that it might be something new to them, and don't be afraid to guide them through this.
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Profile: Michelle57
Michelle57 on Jun 16, 2017
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Tell them "I'm ___" and make sure they know what that means. A lot of people don't know what being bi or pan or trans or ace means. You could come out using a gay joke if it makes things easier for you. Just make sure you're being clear. Take safety procautions if needed and mentally prepare for all types of reactions.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 18, 2017
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It all depends on your reason(s) behind coming out to them. First, you test the waters by asking them how they feel about the LGBT+ community and only advance if you receive a positive reply. You can ask your siblings or friends who understand you,of course, to give off little hints towards your parents about how you might be anything but straight. You also need to be sure how you might take care of yourself(financially) incase they don't accept you and cut you of. Remember, this is a decision you will never be able to undo so weigh in your pros and cons before diving in. All the best :)
Profile: fairyhaley
fairyhaley on Jun 21, 2017
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Coming out when the time is right is a good idea, if you know you are in an unsafe enviorment, or a situation where you know it's unsafe to come out it may not be a good idea.
Profile: PrincessDove13
PrincessDove13 on Jun 30, 2017
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This varies on your parents for a few reasons, the biggest being how accepting and open minded they are. If you already know that they do not support lgbtq+ people, then this might be a very hard thing. If you do not know their opinions on the matter, try asking them sometime, either very obviously or more discreet. If you know they at least have a fair chance of beig accepting of you, then coming out should be a little easier. Try asking to talk to them- either one at a time or both at the same time- maybe somewhere private like a bedroom. And explain who you are. Be prepared for any questions and just in case, any backlash and anger. If they are less accepting, you need to allow time for them to adjust.
Profile: nottheboynextdoor7
nottheboynextdoor7 on Jun 30, 2017
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There is not a set way to come out, but the best thing to do is wait until you are ready. Don't force yourself to come out if you aren't comfortable with it. It's better to wait until you are ready rather than desperately throw it into the open. Trust yourself, and you'll know when the time comes.
Profile: ChipDip
ChipDip on Jul 1, 2017
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Sit them down calmly and tell them straight and honestly. But it is different for all families. Not everyone has a family that will support LGBT+ so it's important to put your safety above all else
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 2, 2017
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Well, consider the timing. Determine whether this is the right time. Be in a good place in your life, comfortable and confident. Be realistic and anticipate their reaction. Arm yourself with answers ahead of time. Stay calm, even if they aren't. Their approval is not required. When all of these things are considered, I recommend starting the conversation with, "can I tell you something?". That way, they know you're serious and you also can't chicken out last minute (although There is no shame in doing so). Let them know that it is not an attack on their heritage or parentage, and that you just want to continue to be loved by your family, and the fear of losing that love is strong. That your coming out doesn't be mean you don't love them, rather the opposite.
Profile: KaleidoscopeSoul
KaleidoscopeSoul on Jul 13, 2017
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There's no happier feeling in life than getting to come out and be happy with who you are. All you can do is tell your parents, and if they don't accept you, then it's their loss. If they really loved you, they would accept your happiness.
Profile: NaomiLuna
NaomiLuna on Jul 23, 2017
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There is no right way to come out. Not everyone has the most supportive parents, and not everyone is ready to be open about their sexuality or gender identity with their family. It's important to realize when you are ready, safe and confident to take this very big step. Don't rush yourself, take your time.
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