How do I come out as nonbinary?
MichiiM
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Apr 21, 2018
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Ease into the subject easily, observe their body language and make sure they're not trying to pressure you into being silent. Make sure you're also comfortable while coming out and don't force yourself.
Anonymous
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Apr 21, 2018
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Firstly you are going to have to accept yourself and be happy. Once that happens coming out should not be that important because you just have to be happy with yourself and people who really love you would accept you for you.
Anonymous
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Apr 22, 2018
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Do it in a safe environment and take things slow. Rushing things will only bring up questions for the person you're coming out too. Allow them time to think about it and ask questions. Be supportive of them and they will be supportive of you.
Doodido
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May 6, 2018
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first you want to make sure you accept yourself as non-binary before you expect anyone else to, then you wanna make sure you just dont think about too much. when i came out as pan to my parents i was thinking about it to much and i was nervous and i could barley breath i was so scared and i had thoughts racing in my head like what if they dont accept me or what if they kick me out of the house, you shouldnt let that happen though
Anonymous
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Jun 21, 2018
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That solely depends on who you want to talk to, if it's your parents try to calm the situation down and make the moment right
Anonymous
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Jun 21, 2018
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In times as this it can be hard to come out about your self, But know that its not in my place to tell you what you need to do. Its your choose to pick your own way and style to come out. I will be happy to support you and to share a Link on ideas to coming out. I do ask that you make shore you have planed out both path (Accepting and Being Kicked out) and your safe, & cups has lots to offer in helping you get this done pre to coming out. Forum Post :https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupportCommunity_58/ResourcesforLGBTQMOGIICommunity_766/41AwesomeIdeaWaysToComeOutToYourFriendsAndFamily_59680/
NerdGorgon
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Jul 1, 2018
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Coming out can often be tough, especially when you try to come out as something your parents, friends or colleagues may not even have heard of. From my experience it helps them to understand if you first take a few minutes to explain what exactly nonbinary means to you. Be prepared to answer their questions - even ridiculous sounding ones, or the same question over and over again by different people.
Another possible approach would be to drop the term altogether when talking to them. Sounds illogical, huh? But the point is, this is about your identity. Who you are, how you interact with the world and, ultimately, how you want the world to see you. Sometimes people who strongly believe in the gender binary react a lot more supportive when you tell them "Please understand I feel uncomfortable being called by female terms, because I don't want a letter in my birth certificate become the main focus of who I am as a person." or "Please accept that even though you know me as a man I nevertheless enjoy several things traditionally regarded as feminine. These are part of who I am and I don't want to feel guilty for my interests or hide them from you."
If people close to you initially react poorly, give them some time. Offer to be available for questions, try to stay calm and let them know what's important to you about the way you want to be seen. But also don't be afraid to seek out new contacts when someone constantly disrespects your nonbinary identity.
Often people feel confused after someone just came out to them. They may want to show support, but don't know how. You could give them basic guidelines like "I'd appreciate if you refer to me as (insert your preferred pronouns here)". In case your gender is shifting throughout the week, it also helps to agree on a marker, eg. "If I'm wearing this leather string on my wrist, it's one of my boy days."
ElaineSaysHello
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Jul 7, 2018
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Maybe start off by telling your closest friends if you're not ready to tell your family. This will help ease tension and know that at least we here at 7 Cups are very accepting of you coming out
Anonymous
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Aug 11, 2018
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If you want to come out as a nonbinary person. Just do it when you feel comfortable. Don't force yourself into it. Lots of people have hard time when coming out. Remember lots of people had the same feeling as you in a point of your life.
CameronCares
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Aug 18, 2018
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It's important to explain how you feel. They may not understand some terms like nonbinary or genderfluid. Tell whoever you are coming out to how it impacts you. As I said to my ma, "I am nonbinary. I feel like no gender. Not a man or a woman." Once they understand, tell them how you'd like to be referred to (pronouns, name, etc.) Answer any questions they have. If they believe it's a phase, prove to them it isn't. Keep reminding them of pronouns, wear the clothes you like, and be yourself. They will understand eventually and support you.
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