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How do I come out as nonbinary?

Profile: Kaydenchatss
Kaydenchatss on Nov 18, 2017
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Coming out is a difficult process for anyone no matter what they identify as but being nonbinary is definitely a new concept for a lot of people so the coming process for someone who identifies as being nonbinary might have some more obstacles to overcome. I would say that you should try and empathise with whoever you are trying to come out to. Put yourself in their shoes and remember that this might be complete new to them so it is normal and okay for them to not understand and maybe even reject the idea of it because they fear what they don’t understand. Just remain calm, sit down with the person and explain what nonbinary is and what it means to you and the changes it will bring (change if pronouns, names etc). Just keep in mind that this person might know nothing so teach them! Try and help them understand you and how you feel and go from there :)
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 6, 2017
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Coming out is a huge step and there aren't really rules on how to do it. It depends on the person how they want to do it. What is important is that you feel safe when you do it and that you have the information to answer possible questions that the person you're coming out to might have about being nonbinary.
Profile: Clayne
Clayne on Dec 23, 2017
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You get to decide how best works for you! Ultimately, there's no wrong way to come out :) In my personal experience, coming out meant informing those around me what nonbianary meant, and so it meant informing them on why I felt the way that I did. Over dinner, I gently said that I had to talk to my family about something, and told them I didn't feel like a girl. I had been researching, and I found that I wasn't a girl or a boy: I was just a human. My parents both only believed me when I showed them scientific studies and journal reports. Everyone has a different life situation, and you have to do what you feel confident in. Slowly I told my friends, but word spread before I could tell people personally, and soon people I had never met were calling me "them" and "they". So in the end, there is no "right" answer, whatever makes you feel the most comfortable and confident.
Profile: BrightLight111
BrightLight111 on Dec 30, 2017
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coming out is a very personal experience and you have to come out in your own way. Non-binary might take a bit of explaining but bear with them because if they care about you they'll truly want to learn and understand more.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 13, 2018
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Coming out as non-binary will need some clearing up, especially if the person you are telling doesn't know much about the LGBTQ+ community. When you do tell someone make sure to give them some time to process this new information.
Profile: JuliaIsParticipating
JuliaIsParticipating on Jan 20, 2018
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It depends on who you are coming out to. If you're coming out to friends you know will immediately support you, then simply tell them that you identify as nonbinary and what pronouns you use. If you are coming out to close family members, have a meeting with them and fully explain yourself to them. Best of luck!
Profile: Linzielove
Linzielove on Feb 7, 2018
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You don't need to come out, if you truly don't want to. However if you do come out, try to mention it as casually as possible. This way whoever you are telling may feel as though their reaction has to be equally casual and calm.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 7, 2018
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Depending on the people you're coming out to, you may want to do it differently. If they are aware of the community and know what non-binary is, then it can be simple. But you may have to explain it. You can write a letter or email, call them over the phone, talk to them in person- you could even ask to meet with a counselor and talk it out with them there. If you do have to explain it, be prepared. It's important to come out when you're ready. Do your research, get to the point where no one can change your mind. Remember that you know you best! What ever you do end up doing, just make sure that the environment you're coming out in is safe.
Profile: ultravioletsunflower
ultravioletsunflower on Apr 8, 2018
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Coming out can be a hard process come out to someone whom you feel safe with first when it is a safe time. Explain to them what being non binary means and why you feel this way. Best of luck!
Profile: SunnyGab
SunnyGab on Apr 15, 2018
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Sit down with your parents (or etc) and have a calm discussion about how you want them to refer to you. Leaving room for them to ask questions.
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