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How do I come out as nonbinary?

Profile: clairdeluna
clairdeluna on Jul 8, 2018
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Coming out is a highly individual and personal experience and there is no one way to do it. Just be you - and don't put too much pressure on yourself! One thing I would recommend is to maybe have a list of extra resources handy in case the person you are coming out to isn't too familiar with what being nonbinary means. Doing a quick search on google will give you a bunch of infographics and pamphlets that you can print out and use to help explain difficult terms or concepts. If you are nervous and feel like it might be hard to express yourself in the moment (which is totally okay!), you can also go on youtube beforehand and find a video you would like to play for them instead, and then give them the opportunity to ask questions afterwards. If you want further advice on how to come out as nonbinary, as well as see/hear the coming out stories of other nonbinary folks, there are some pretty awesome people on youtube who make videos about these topics. A few of my favorites include Ash Hardell, Chandler Wilson, and Ashley Wylde. They are all amazing and I would definitely recommend checking them out if you get the chance! One final thing I would add is to remember that you should only come out when it is safe for you to do so. I don't know how old you are, but if you still live with a parent or guardian and have reason to believe they might not be as supporting, or if you have friends at school that might make fun of you, it might be best to wait. Only come out when you are in a safe environment and ideally surrounded by people who will love and support you no matter what. Again, just remember to be yourself, and best of luck!
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Profile: starrymorning
starrymorning on May 10, 2017
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Coming out as non-binary can often involve explanations! Sit down, face to face if possible, with who you want to speak to, be open and as honest as you can. If it helps, write down what you want to say beforehand, so you have a general idea before you walk into the situation, along with simple definitions that may help other people understand how you're feeling! Good luck!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 28, 2018
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As someone who is nonbinary, I can tell you there is no way certain way to come out. If you're looking for how to explain it, then I usually say something along the lines of, 'I never felt comfortable identifying as either a girl or a boy, so I found that this label was the best for me.' If you're worried about the response, then just remember you have to identify as what you feel most comfortable- nobody else can tell you how to identify except for you. You are the expert on you. You are valid. And remember, there is a whole community here ready to support you.
Profile: adventurousHazel
adventurousHazel on Apr 6, 2017
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I, personally, do not label gender or sexuality. There are two biological sexes, but that's about it. The entire concept of coming out as an LGBTQ+ person may be helpful to some, but has never been a thing I really considered for myself. I can't tell you what to do or what's best for you, but when I realised I felt attracted to people no matter what biological sex or what gender they identify as, I never actually hid it or made a big deal out of it. Same when I decided that I don't understand the concept of gender and their stereotypes. When people ask me or I happen to get to that subject with people, I state my opinion, but it's not part of my general introduction. I don't walk up to my boss or another person I just met like "Hi, I'm x, I have a vagina, but sometimes I like to wear pants and I choose my life partners regardless of their sex or gender". We shouldn't have to label or justify what we are in general, so that's that. But if you feel the need to share something new you figured out about your own identity with friends or family, I am sure people who love you, will be fine with you just being open and honest with them. If it's something yo want to share, you shouldn't have to be afraid of how people will react. People who matter don't mind and people who mind don't matter. ♥
Profile: blissfulWriting11
blissfulWriting11 on Apr 30, 2017
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There is no reason to come out if you're not comfortable with doing so. You should only come out if you want to and are comfortable with doing so. Nonbinary is an umbrella term to many different identities, such as being agender, as I am. If you want to come out to someone, make sure they know that there's more than two genders and what being nonbinary is. If they don't know, feel free to tell them. If the person you come out to does not accept you then their thoughts on the matter aren't as relevant as you think.
Profile: marquesBloodbrother
marquesBloodbrother on May 7, 2017
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Whenever you come out it's obviously difficult, however, in my experience of coming out, you will always feel the right time in your heart. I came out in a way that expressed me, I made a card, and then blurted out "I'm gay! and then handed the card to my parents. Maybe you can just blurt. You can bake a cake, whatever feels right. Hope that was helpful,
Profile: peacelovemusic03
peacelovemusic03 on Jun 7, 2017
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Honestly, whatever works for you and your situation, it differs for every person. Theres always a time and place so make sure that's all set first. You could say it to their face or over text, a phone call or even a letter. Whatever happens, know that 7cups is here to support you!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 24, 2017
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Personally, I am non-binary myself !! I don't think you have to do it a specifically certain way. It honestly depends on who you're coming out to and why. Give it some time. Hint it to the person you're coming out to, find out their views without specifically putting yourself out there. Once you're certain that you feel safe in telling this person you're non-binary, go for it !! There's nothing to lose.
Profile: Raspberrycheesecake
Raspberrycheesecake on Jun 13, 2018
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Firstly, you need to understand what non binary is and come to terms with it yourself. Once you have done this, you can then tell someone close to you, for example, a family member. Make sure you do this in your own time and in a place you feel safe. Good luck!
Profile: Animallover101
Animallover101 on Jul 19, 2018
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Get comfortable with it yourself. Tell someone you really trust. Explain it all to them as well as possible. And then you can eventually come out to everyone else too
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