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How do I come out as nonbinary?

Profile: Elliot2003
Elliot2003 on Jun 24, 2020
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Well that can very from person to person for me i came out honestly by mistake, it was kinda funny i was making a joke about being non binary to one of my friends and my mom over heard me. there is no real right way to come out, you could do it face to face, in a letter, through a meme anyway that feels right to you, the most important thing is your safety if you feel safe to come out as non binary and your ready to let the world now great! if you don't feel safe or don't like your not ready yet that's cool too its you journey not anyone else's there's no rush
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Anonymous on Jul 8, 2020
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For yourself, it may feel a very scary and potentially even embarrassing thought to try and come out as nonbinary. You have to think to yourself, why am I worried about doing this? What is wrong with coming out, expressing your true sexual identity? The answer to both questions is NOTHING. Don't think about what others would say, do it because you know it is best for yourself, and your real true friends will always be there to support you. Don't forget there are many people to talk to if you may need some assistance with coming out, like ourselves!
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Anonymous on Aug 6, 2020
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You must feel worried about this which is completely understandable. Remember the world is changing to a much more accepting and loving place. Just do what feels right and go with your gut. You are not alone in this and there are many, many people out there thinking about how to come out to family, friends and everyone else. There is no rush and know that there are also many resources to help if you ever feel worried or stressed about this. You are incredibly brave, so just remember to try to take it easy and do what feels right.
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Anonymous on Aug 16, 2020
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Ther is no right or wrong way to come out, just as long as you are certain that you will be emotionally and physically safe. Or, if you don't think your current living situation will be safe (for example if you are a teen living with unnaccepting guardians or family members) be sure you have a backup plan, such as a friend. But, as far as the act of actually coming out goes you can do it as openly and dramatically or play it as lowkey as you want. This is a huge step in accepting who you are and how you identify with yourself and the world so no matter what you do, stay true to yourself.
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Anonymous on Aug 19, 2020
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It helps to tell the people who are most likely to be understanding first. Their positive reaction should boost your confidence and help you to find telling the next people a little easier. So first, you might want to think about who the first people should be. Find the right time and place to tell them, but don’t overthink this too much. Be open, honest and answer any questions that they might have. And remember, if you are met by a negative response, the whole of the LGBTQ+ community is here to support you. There’s also a website called WhenICameOut that you may find useful!
Profile: softMemory3386
softMemory3386 on Sep 13, 2020
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First of all, I just want to say that your identity is so valid, and you're so brave for thinking about coming out. First things first, I would make sure that you're in a safe environment to come out. The Trevor Project has a really great "Coming Out" page that gives a couple of great suggestions for testing the waters. For example, trying casually bringing out LGBTQ+ issues, or even non-binary issues to the people that you're planning on coming out to. If you don't notice any red flags, then it's probably safe to think about coming out to those people. If you have a trusted friend, try acting out how you want to come out to others with them. Practicing the general words that you want to say might help ease anxiety around coming out. there are also some really great nonbinary support tumblr blogs out there (I also believe that there are some reddit communities, but I'm not certain about that.) Hope that this advice helps, and I hope that everything goes well!
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Anonymous on Sep 16, 2020
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There are different ways you can do that. It depends on how YOU want to do it. Some people feel like they want to celebrate it as a public announcement type thing. They might even throw a party, like a "non-gender-reveal!" (Please, no fireworks!) Or, perhaps you feel it's a more private thing, and you choose to just start making changes that ease you into being more you....changing your hairstyle, or your clothes, or your nickname...and then, if and when people ask you about it, you simply acknowledge and educate: "I don't belong in a box." I think the best thing to do is to take some quiet time for yourself to imagine what YOU want your "coming out" to look like. Create the perfect scenario in your mind. Consider and create the perfect responses from your friends, family, and even from strangers. And then share that vision with a close friend or two, and ask them to help you manifest that vision into reality. You are doing something magical for yourself: you are becoming your most authentic version of you. There's nothing nicer you could do for yourself, than be you! Congratulations!
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Alyx05 on Oct 9, 2020
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It depends on the person. But a good tip is laying out hints to whoever your coming out to. And coming out can be done by song, making a cake with the flag or saying "I'm Non-Binary" etc. But just use your imagination or whatever you feel comfortable with. Also another tip is to come out to friends first to see how their reaction and to see if you yourself are ready to come out. Also if they don't know what Non-Binary means educate them about who you are and how to address you. Also it will take some time to get used to your pronouns, so if you feel a bit weird about it that doesn't mean that your faking it.
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KayleeVolunteers on Oct 25, 2020
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That is a tough one. I think coming out as anything that is not perceived to others as "normal" will be difficult. However, I think the first step would be to assist the situation. Currently, are you in a safe spot to come out to your family? If not, maybe it would be base to wait until it is safe for you. If yes, there are still other questions that you should think about. Are you personally okay with coming out? Have you except yourself with who you are? I think the number one priority, however, is your safety and be honest.
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Anonymous on Oct 28, 2020
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You tell who you want to tell. Coming out to the world is less about everyone else knowing who you are, and more about you being comfortable with who you are. I think the misconseption with coming out focuses more on the people around you and how they'll react and less about the fact that you are just living your life honestly. But also its up to you. If you want to officially come out, you can just tell your friends/family/anyone you want 'Hey, by the way, I'm nonbinary. These are the pronouns i would like you to refer me as.' If you dont deem it necessary to say that then continue your life as you usually do and if at anytime someone refers to you not as the pronoun you have chosen you can say 'by the way I'm nonbinary and this is my preferred pronoun'. I dont know how helpful i was but I want you to know that you dont deserve anyone any explanation about who you are or how you live your life. Take care!
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