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How can you tell if you are a boy or a girl, or something else entirely?

Profile: hobbitwho
hobbitwho on Jun 18, 2015
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It's not about having lady parts or boy parts. You are what you feel like you are. If you feel like a girl, then you're one. If you feel like a boy, you're one too.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 18, 2015
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Besides the body that I have either penis or vagina, I feel like I'm either male or female. The most important is how I feel. Personally I feel like I'm a boy and I have a male body. If there's someone who has, for example male body, but thinks that they are female, they are female then.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 18, 2015
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Stay true to yourself and be accepting of whatever emotions and desires you may have. Nobody else can tell you who you are or how to be.
Profile: KindHeart3141
KindHeart3141 on Jun 18, 2015
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Although it is possible to define gender as “sex,” indicating that the term can be used when differentiating male creatures from female ones biologically, the concept of gender, a word primarily applied to human beings, has additional connotations—more rich and more amorphous—having to do with general behavior, social interactions, and most importantly, one's fundamental sense of self. Until recently, most people assumed that acknowledging one's gender, or sex, was easy. You just checked the appropriate box on a standard form, choosing either “male” or “female,” according to the gender you had been assigned at birth based on visible anatomical evidence. But some people's internal sense of who they are does not correspond with their assigned gender. And in fact, we now recognize that a complex spectrum between male and female exists not only mentally, psychologically, and behaviorally, but anatomically; there have always been biologically intersex people. Gender identity is complicated. Some people, perhaps most, do not question their assigned gender. But others perceive themselves as belonging to the opposite sex. Still others, some of whom identify themselves as genderqueer, see themselves as neither male nor female, or perhaps as both, or as rotating between genders, or even as not belonging to any gender categorization at all. Those who clearly see themselves as the opposite sex may or may not want to transition to it in some measure. Of those who do, some may complete that transition, but others may be happy to stop partway on a path that can include dressing and behaving like the opposite sex, although the desire to cross-dress can exist quite apart from issues of gender identity. Somewhere along the transitional path, people may want to change their given names and adopt linguistic terms of their own choosing, including a variety of pronouns, as designations of themselves and others. Some will have hormone treatments and opt for various kinds of surgery—perhaps facial, perhaps on their bodies, perhaps ultimately including sex “reassignment” surgery (genital reconstruction). At any point, they may welcome or reject a “transsexual” or “transgender” label. This array of life experiences has resulted in a veritable explosion of new, or newly adapted, vocabulary. Particularly striking and useful is the word cis or prefix cis-, as in cis male, cis female, and cisgender, designating those whose sense of self matches their assigned gender. Using cis is a way to refer to these individuals without implying that “cis” people are the norm and all others a deviation from “normal.” It is notable that choices of gender beyond male and female are even appearing on social media sites. Clearly, gender is no longer a simple binary concept, if it ever was.
Profile: ElliesLight
ElliesLight on Jun 19, 2015
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I've had to think about this question a lot in my life. What I've realized over time is that there is no way to tell for certain what you are, nor does it matter. Identifying as anything in particular means you are identifying to a set stereotype that society has developed, and while you may feel closer to one or another, all they are is what society has decided what that gender means. Do what you want, and be who you want to be - don't let social standard rule your life and trouble your heart. You are you, and that's awesome.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 19, 2015
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A lot of times, it's a gut feeling, or a feeling in your heart that you identify as a different gender, or no gender at all. Acknowledge the feeling, and understand that there is nothing wrong with it. You might feel like the gender you were born as is a disguise, or a costume, so it feels unnatural.
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Anonymous on Jun 19, 2015
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I can tell that I am gender fluid because I have always been fluctuating between feminine and masculine as well as other gender identities behaviors. I have not seen myself or felt as if I was defined by either male or female all the time, I simply felt like a boy or girl or something different on any given moment. Sometimes I'd spend my entire year or more, feeling rather masculine, but I would then feel like a girl on occasion and be a pretty princess. Never defining myself strictly as any gender is my answer.
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Anonymous on Jun 19, 2015
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Honey. It honestly dont matter. What matters is what kind of person you are. Be who you want to be and do what you feel is right. Follow your heart baby.
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Anonymous on Jun 19, 2015
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Gender is a social construct, so you basically just need to figure out what identity feels most comfortable to you. If you're concerned about passing you might want to take into account how well you can pass as the gender you're thinking about identifying as.
Profile: WonderlandRabbit
WonderlandRabbit on Jun 19, 2015
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Well, if youre asking about whether you are a girl, boy, or something else, you are questioning your identity. Your own identity can be only defined as your feelings. What feels right to you?
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