How can you tell if you are a boy or a girl, or something else entirely?
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Anonymous
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Jul 11, 2015
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check down below you will get the idea.
SoaringSky
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Jul 11, 2015
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"Boy" and "Girl" are only the two opposite points on the spectrum of gender. Many people identify as one or the other, but a growing group of individuals choose instead to identify as "Gender Queer", "Gender Fluid" or "Gender Neutral" which means they don't identify as solely either gender, and instead flow somewhere between the two.
As for deciding where you lie on the spectrum, only you can really know, and you don't have to make a decision. For some, it changes from day to day, which is absolutely fine. Additionally, you can be any gender you want regardless of your sex or sexual orientation. The decision is completely your own, and only you can choose. After all, only you know what's going on in your own head.
StevensLion
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Jul 11, 2015
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If you feel like a boy, you're a boy! If you feel like a girl, you're a girl! If you feel like both, you're both! And if you don't feel like either, you're neither! You're the only person who can define who you are.
BeauRemo
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Jul 11, 2015
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Only you know what you identify as. If you feel you are a boy then you are. If you feel like a girth then you are. If you feel like neither then that's what you are. No one else can place a gender on you other than what you feel you are. Biologically we are all assigned a gender but as we grow we might realize that it doesn't match who we are inside. That gender that you feel you are is the correct one. If you feel like you aren't either that's what you are.
bubblegumStrawberry72
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Jul 12, 2015
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You can tell by looking at your genitalssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssßssssssssssssssssss
ListenJessica645
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Jul 12, 2015
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If you have had a crush on only one gender or have had strange feelings towards only one, then you are the standard heterosexual. If you feel like you were born into the wrong gender, or you have similar feelings towards both, then you are bi or transgender.
ListeningForHope
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Jul 15, 2015
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Most people know from the time they grow up wether or not they are a boy or a girl, but as we grow older it becomes much harder to tell for some people. Some feeling as if they belong in another body while other feel like they belong just where they are. So I don't think you can ever really "tell" until the day you wake up and decide "This is who I am going to be for today".
ReassuringOcelot37
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Jul 16, 2015
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The place to start, I think, is to realize that being a boy or girl, a man or woman, is to step into a role that has been crafted by society over centuries. It's not the "Natural" state of affairs for anyone to have all the stereotypical characteristics of one gender role or another. People have their own smattering of various characteristics, and usually they're partly a mixture of attributes from both "male" and "female" roles, plus others that are either neutral or just "other."
So the upshot is that what you are is what you feel you are, what you identify as. Just as someone who paints a lot and feels it's part of their personality can identify as a painter, you can elect to identify with any role that matches the characteristics you want to embrace as parts of your personality. You're a girl or a boy or other by choice...or in the case of people who are not self aware, they were assigned male or female at birth according to the features of their bodies, and just assumed that the assignment was right for their whole lives. I didn't notice the disparity for many years myself. I called myself by one role, but felt that I was just a very atypical example of the type. But no; with my characteristics, a different role fits me much better, so now I embrace my chosen gender. Read up about the different sorts of people in the gender spectrum, and about being agender, and see what resonates with you!
Anonymous
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Jul 17, 2015
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You're going to question it for a while. You might have to do it in stages, you might have to experiment with your identity. You'll know, inside, when the time is right.
daisyinwounderland
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Jul 17, 2015
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One things for sure. Body parts mean nothing! What do you feel you are? Boy, girl, or even neither. These are all possibilities. At the end of the day all that matters is what you feel the most comfortable identifying with.
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