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How can you tell if you are a boy or a girl, or something else entirely?

Profile: DarkestBeforeDawn
DarkestBeforeDawn on Jul 1, 2015
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Just go with the flow. There is such an emphasis on a binary , but gender and expression can be fluid.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 1, 2015
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Well, what do you feel like? It isn't always that easy, but sometimes it can be as simple as letting your guard down and using whatever pronoun that comes to mind. Ask yourself if it feels natural.
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You do what you feel. Honestly it's just something you kind of know; be what you feel comfortable being.
Profile: Noah88
Noah88 on Jul 1, 2015
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If you want to know what someone identifies as and you're not sure, the best way to find out is by asking them. There's a difference between gender identity and presentation, and they don't always have to overlap -- which means assuming can lead to some uncomfortable situations. If you ask, you'll like have made someone's day better by being open and respectful about their identity.
Profile: RainStorm226
RainStorm226 on Jul 2, 2015
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It's a personal decision. Gender is a social construct, so choose the label that feels right to you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 2, 2015
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What it entails to be either a boy or girl on a superficial societal level appear to be very simple. However, on an educated level they really aren't. There are so many levels of masculinity and femininity that it simply isn't a case of "okay you have male genitals, therefore you're a man". If you have a strong feeling that you are not cisgender, or fit to the norms of the dichotomy of gender roles, then cling onto that feeling. Learn to learn about yourself, who you feel you are. I think the best sign, is a name. If you'd rather have a name of the opposite sex/gender, or perhaps would rather wear the clothes of the opposite sex/gender, then go from there but always trust your instincts.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 2, 2015
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For me, it's about finding myself. Thinking: Who am I and who do I want to be and what do I identify as? Maybe the question to start with is "Am I 100% comfortable with what I call myself now (in this case, the gender identity you were given at birth)?" I yes, that's great, you're set. Don't change a thing. If no, the internet is your best friend (even more so now). There are thousands of articles about the different gender identities that exist. Go read up until you find the description that matches how you feel about yourself. Go discover yourself. Happy reading my lovelies.
Profile: LyricalBabin
LyricalBabin on Jul 3, 2015
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Only you can figure out who you are . Sometimes that takes awhile . What do you feel comfortable as ?
Profile: BLMlove15
BLMlove15 on Jul 3, 2015
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I can't answer that for you. I suggest doing some research, and explore your identity. Youtube has a lot of videos that cover plenty of identities.
Profile: Em
Em on Jul 3, 2015
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If deep inside you feel like you identify more with the way society views girls, you can identify as a girl. If deep inside, you feel like you identify more with society's view of what it means to be a boy, you can identify as a boy. If deep down, you feel like you're a little of both, sometimes this and sometimes that, neither, or something else entirely — you can identify as that. Gender IS fluid, always, so any decision of how you identify yourself can change as your feelings change. It's okay to feel confused, to feel unsure, and to explore. It's welcome. Good luck!
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