How can my asexual friend be with her sexual boyfriend?

Asexuality doesn't mean that a person won't have sex, it just means that they usually don't feel sexual attraction towards people. However, when those who are asexual get into relationships, a number of things can happen. They can just worry about being happy together and not worry about sex at all, or perhaps they would engage in sexual acts. Regardless, what they do is behind closed doors, and as long as the friend and her boyfriend are happy and love eachother, they can be in a relationship, as sex is not, and should not be, a staple to holding a relationship together.

Well firstly, being asexual does not limit someone's capability or desire to be in a relationship. An asexual could desire a romantic relationship or even a sexual relationship. An asexual can have a very high libido, desire sex, enjoy sex, masturbate, watch porn, have a fetish as much as any other person from another orientation; behavior does not invalidate an orientation. Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction, not necessarily a lack of sexual desire. Plus, an allosexual might desire not to have a sexual relationship with someone for as diverse reasons as an asexual might desire to engage in sexual relationship. Whether your friend and her boyfriend have sex or not is entirely up to them and the boundaries and limits they have placed in their relationship. So I guess in short, your friend’s relationship is just like any other relationship unique and personal.

Asexuality reflects a person's lack of sexual attraction for other people. That being said, however, there is a lot of variability in how people in the asexual community navigate through their own romantic relationships. While some asexuals abstain from sex, many others do not. There are many asexual people who participate in sexual activities with their partners as a way of communicating affection and closeness. Sexual activity is a separate thing from sexual attraction. If you'd like to read more, I would recommend visiting the FAQ page on the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) website: www.asexuality.org

That's fine, as long as your friend isn't uncomfortable. If your friends boyfriend is respecting your friends wishes, there shouldn't be too much of a problem :} Relationships aren't just sex focused, it's also about emotional understanding, compassion and love!

It may help to remember sexuality isn't the same as sexual behavior, although it influences what sexual behavior you are most interested in. Consider, for example, a heterosexual priest. His sexuality is heterosexual, but his behavior is celibate. A relationship between an asexual person and a sexual person can take lots of forms, and that's something for your friend and her boyfriend to workout together. She may choose to engage in some sexual acts, he may choose to not engage in some sexual acts, perhaps they will find a form of non-monogamy helps where he and/or she has another partner as well... there are lots of options! Like every relationship, it will just take discussion and honesty.

Well there are different spectrums of asexuality. Some asexuals will have sex, not because they want to, but because they do it for their romantic partner, others want nothing to do with sex, and some are in between. Also, your friend being asexual does not mean that they are aromantic as well. They could still have physical attractions and be in romantic relationships, just not experience any real sexual attraction towards that person.

As long as they discuss boundaries and each respect each other's boundaries, that part should be fine!

So, just because people are asexual doesn't mean they won't have sex, they very well may partially to the benefit of their partner. Asexual generally aren't repulsed by the idea of sex, they just don't find pleasure in it. To continue, especially if you aren't an adult, they can have a very healthy romantic relationship, which may include kissing and so on. People draw the line between romance and sexuality in different places and with different people. Hope that was sort of helpful :)

I'm asexual and my bf isnt but if they love each other they can sit down and come to a good agreement that makes them both happy :)

Your asexual friend may not actually be sexual with him. She may also be sexual out of love, as many asexuals who are sexual do. She may also be demisexual or greysexual but not know of other identifying labels. She may also choose not to label herself even though she is more of a sexual being then most understand.