How can I tell my same-sex friends that I am gay/lesbian/bi without them thinking I like them?
plumnectarine
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May 17, 2015
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By saying that you want to tell them because it's part of who you are and that they deserve to know
Lior
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Jul 21, 2015
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As you probably know, same-sex attraction doesn't mean attraction to the whole sex. There are types, attraction to certain people and favorable looks.
Something I like to use is that hetero people like the opposite sex and yet is not attracted to every single person with that sex. So why gays/lesbians/bi will be attracted to anyone?
Talking is something that can greatly help, and telling how you feel.
TheGreyFixer
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Jan 11, 2016
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Sadly, it's very difficult to do this sometimes (especially when you're young), but hear me out: That is not your fault. People should not automatically assume that someone likes them just because suddenly they find out that person likes other people of the same gender. Ultimately, I would say don't even mention it. Coming out is about you, not them. If they ask, tell them plainly that you're not interested in them. But even if they don't, congratulations. You've taken a brave step forwards.
Anonymous
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Feb 22, 2016
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Just tell them that you are queer, and if they think that you are attracted to them tell them that not just because your queer means that you like them.
Anonymous
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May 17, 2016
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Tell them straight up you're gay and not interested in them in a sexual way easy as that.........................
Anonymous
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Jun 7, 2016
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If they automaticaly jump to that conclusion just tell them straight up that you have no interest in them.
Aayla
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Aug 26, 2019
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You can express your feelings and explain what it means to be who you are, and why is it so important to share it with others. If they understand how much lgbt people need to express themselves freely, they'll understand that you don't have second intentions and you only want to be free to be who you are with them. Just tell them it's important for you to let them know who you really are, because they are your friends and you want to share everything with them. They'll understand!
Talulah22
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Apr 19, 2015
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I would just tel them, and say that you're afraid that they will think you like them. Just be honest in what you feel and what you're afraid of.
secretBalsam1682
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May 19, 2016
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Just be honest. I wouldn't assume someone liked me just because they came out to me.
BradyHero
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Jan 9, 2017
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Remind them that your sexuality does not change your friendship in any way and, if they still don't seem to get it, tell them nicely that you are not interested in them romantically/sexually.
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