How can I tell if I am really ready to come out of the closet?
Anonymous
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Sep 21, 2015
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When you are most certain that you are safe to do so, and you will not end up homeless when you tell them.
Aayla
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May 14, 2019
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Coming out is something that does not have a right or wrong time. The best time to do it is whenever you think the comfort of finally being free to live your identity openly will be bigger than the uneasiness of sharing something that not everyone might accept. Unfortunately, there are always gonna be people who are not supportive. But if you feel like the freedom to be yourself will be rewarding enough to give you the strength to face the uneasiness of dealing with these unsupportive people, then any moment is good for you to come out!
Mac21
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May 3, 2015
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When you feel comfortable enough to let people know then its a good time, being comfortable and at peace with your sexuality will really help you when you decide to come out of the closet, also try to make sure you have a good support network around you made up of people you can trust.
tranqq
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Jul 31, 2017
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It's really up to you! But some good general guidelines are:
1. You're in a safe place. The people you come out to, you either don't care what they think, or you feel like you can handle their reactions. For example, if it's your parents, you know their reaction will be positive/neutral, and they will not withdraw financial/emotional support from you, and if you're prepared for the case in which they do, then that's great.
2. You're comfortable!! Now that we've gotten the serious stuff out of the way, you really have to feel comfortable with the people you're coming out to, and comfortable enough that no one will be able to make you change your mind about who you are or who you like.
But, there's no right time for anything, that's part of it, you just really take the leap and cross your fingers. Good luck!!
Anonymous
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Sep 17, 2018
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You're ready to come out of the closet if you see that there is no reason for you to be hiding because of what other people will think. They don't control how you feel or what you identify as. They have their own lives and their own problems for them to be worrying about. Don't ever feel like you shouldn't identify a certain way just because of other people. In answer to your question, basically, you should come out of the closet when you decide that you want to be yourself, when you realise that it honestly doesn't matter what others think of you as long as you are happy with your identity. You're identity is your own, not anyone else's and you should remember that
Anthony563
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Jan 12, 2015
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You're ready to come out of the closet when you, yourself is comfortable and confident in the situation. Also if you have a back up plan and or support to help you along the way of coming out.
Anonymous
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Aug 14, 2017
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You kind of have to come out to yourself in a way. Or think to yourself "am I very comfortable with this label, and is it safe?" If both are yes, then you should be ready!
avanef
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Jan 16, 2018
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When you're confident and happy with you and how you identify who you are. You don't need anyone's acceptance or blessing, etc. because of who you are. You are your own person and there are going to be MANY people out there who just will never understand or accept, and that's okay. Your life, not theirs.
Jlexams
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Jan 20, 2018
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It’s entirely your choice whether or not you come out, and who to. Some people find they prefer not to come out. Others find it makes them a positive role model to others and feel glad that they did! I felt better when I came out, and I came out by putting a pansexual flag on her card and saying btw mom I am pansexual!
Anonymous
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Sep 14, 2020
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Hello! So this question is tricky because only we know how we feel, however, if you feel comfortable with this and you deep down know that too, then now you have to get ready to face people, not only understanding and loving people but rude people as well. Think about it for however long and make sure you are feeling safe with your answer then come out however you want, either telling everyone or a more slow approach I wish you the best of luck, stay strong, and remember you are worth anything in this world. Im rooting for you
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