How can I learn to accept and love who I am when I live in a town where almost everyone is homophobic?
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Updated: Oct 7, 2019
Aayla
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Sep 30, 2019
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Surrounding yourself with supportive people who accept you for who you are is the key. Even when surrounded by judgement, love and support can make you stronger. You can try to get in contact with the closest LGBT group or circle. You will find supportive people there, and not only there, I'm sure! And of course, you can try to work towards becoming more independent so that you'll have the chance to move somewhere where you'll feel safer and more welcomed.
Anonymous
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Jan 16, 2015
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You don't need to seek acceptance from others. You find it within yourself. Depending on what other people think will only hurt you in the long run. Don't seek validation of your own emotions, or thoughts from others. People can only hurt you when you allow them to.
RoxyPeeps
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Feb 15, 2015
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Go online for help from other people of the LGBT Community or search for a local GSA or LGBT Club/ Support group to get help from people going through the same problem as you. And just remember that other people are biased against you, it is not your fault you were born the way you were and you are perfect and beautiful no matter what hateful words others say to you.
uglylittlebutterfly
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Apr 1, 2015
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You shouldn't be ashamed of who you are, no matter what the people around you think! Love yourself, and embrace it! It shouldn't matter to you what others think, as long as you are being true to yourself, it shouldn't matter what others think. You be you. :)
guidamaximo
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Aug 18, 2015
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Hello! I know it can be hard to love yourself when people around you, judge you. But the way you see yourself should NEVER be affected by others. You are who you are, and or people accept you and respect you, or their opinion is reelevant, surround yourself with people who do accept you. words have power, but you are stronger than them.
Herequeerandcheering
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Nov 23, 2015
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I totally feel you! Go on the Internet and look for those who have LGBT+'supportive blogs and talk with them maybe and look through their posts. :)
Anonymous
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Jan 18, 2016
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Dont be affraid of being who you are. You also are god's creation. May be he is trying to bring varieties of colors in life. Keep loving yourself. Everything will be stable at one point but make sure that you would never loose self respect and identity. Be what you are.
AChildAtHeart
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Feb 15, 2016
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surround yourself with people like you, I'm not talking about people IRL but people online, you can find a good buddy on this site :) Also, don't forget that there're plenty of arts LGBT related, you can either watch LGBT films/ TV series or read LGBT novels, photography and music about LGBT are good choices too. Whatever you do, wherever you are, the point is keeping in mind that you're not alone, you can find support not only in people but also in other art works. If you need any sources of LGBT arts, PM me, I'd be glad to help you :)
Yourfairygodbro
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Mar 22, 2016
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Homophobia is usually an issue in religious places. If you question your own beliefs and avoid blindly following anything, then it'll be easier to accept yourself the way you are instead of trying to just be what people consider normal. Reading about lgbt+ things online and befriending lgbt+ people through social media like 7cups, tumblr and twitter can help.
DapperRainbow
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May 23, 2016
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Before anyone can accept you and love you, you must accept you and love you. It's difficult for others to see you without self love and self acceptance and then feel that acceptance. They must see your example to understand how to follow it. But most importantly, you are the opinion that matters. At the end of the day, your heart and your soul are what you will answer to. And to love yourself is to enrich yourself with a whole new view of happiness that you deserve to have. It's best to focus on yourself and build yourself regardless of others opinions. You are worth everything in this world. And you deserve to be happy with who you are. And only you can make you feel that love and acceptance.
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